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writes:I'm not proud of what I'm about to say because I know it is wrong and can never be justified so that's why I'm wanting your reinforcemt.I was played like a fiddle by my girlfriend and when all my strings popped she tossed me in the ally with the water rats so now all that preoccupies my head is how I just wanna dedicate my life to doing the same thing that my girlfriend did to me to as many women possible. I never was the type of guy who thought stuff like this but this urge is getting worse each day and I wanna do this to vulnerable women who love me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Never will you be able to love or feel love if you dont let go of hatred your feeling for women,i have experienced this and it truly is horrible
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (7 November 2010):
been there my friend
and trust me the days well do unto her what she has done unto you ,
dont bother your self with hatred and evenge and find a new love
as love cures love and all the pain it does,
usually when a door closes a dozen of doors open instead
just keep the good attitiude that you have and learn from this experience as what doesnt kill you well make you stronger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): You need to realise that in lfe we're going to meet people who hurt us. Does that mean we should all go around seeking vengance? NO! Believe me if i thought like you there would be a lot of heart broken men i can tell ya. This girl hurt you very deeply, everyone gets hurt at some point in there life but do you really think hurting other people is going to make you feel any better?
Not everybody is like your ex girlfriend, there are a lot of nice genuine people in this world and do they really deserve the be hurt just because ONE girlfriend hurt you? I think you're being rather selfish by taking it out on other people. The best revenge would be to move on and be happy, not by wasting your time being bitter. Life's too short.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 If the pressure of your pent up anger and humiliation is so strong , I think you should see a counselor who will heelp you cope with these feelings.
Your revenge is difficult to realize in practice, it assumes you' d be able to make a lot of women fall in love with you, you'd be able to deceive them all ( far from sure, some women can see through bullshit ) and you'd be able to change your nature and values in order to hurt innocent people as you never have done before. That would take a lot of time and effort, which would be better employed in ...just moving on, living your life and being the happiest you can be.
It is also slightly ridicolous. It's a bit like saying, that since you have been robbed or mugged by a man, from now on you'll set out to hurt all the men you meet. Every woman is different and your future "victims " would only have in common their gender with your evil ex.
And ...you wanna "dedicate your life" to this program of yours... It sounds you don't have a lot of respect for your own life, - with so many beautiful, interesting, wortwhile , even noble purposes you could dedicate it to, you would chose as your " mission " ...to constantly pick at the scabs of the booboo that big bad mean evil girl did to you . Talk about a wasted life...
I think, at your age, you could find something better as a life purpose...
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 November 2010):
 And what will that achieve? You are about to emotionally tarnish the vulnerable women who would love you? How can a thought such as that even cross your mind? What if you find a woman who loves you more than your ex ever could? Would you so willingly throw that away for some meager moment of vengeful delight? Date a woman, look her in the eye and then think to yourself, what will you do if you hurt her and she ends up crying because of you? What have you done except worsen your own self-image? Right now, you did not deserve to be treated the way your ex treated you but if you go through with this, you will deserve all the misery in the world.
Seek professional help if you need to move on from this suffering you seem to have inside you but I beg you, do not attempt to spread this plague of sorrow on to the innocent.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Why would you want to hurt vulnerable women? You should be hurting mean, stupid, B!@tches like your Ex! If you want to hurt women who are vulnerable, and who are nice to you, it means that you're scared and weak. It's not going to help anything by you hurting other nice people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): I can relate to this so badly. My ex girlfriend left me about 8 weeks ago saying that we were on separate paths in our lives and how she wanted to keep me in her life but just didn't think that we would end up together. I accepted that and thought that was the real reason but then not even a week later she's already in another relationship with a new guy that she met while she was still involved with me.
What she did to me was so hurtful I don't know if I can ever trust women ever again. She was my first love and I did all my firsts with her. But I guess none of that mattered to her, she treated me like crap and I swore to myself I would never be treated like that ever again. I treated her with respect and listened to everything she had to say and I was always there to lend her an ear and she just decides to toss me aside like a wasted piece of garbage. I guess the best way to proceed through life now is to not let anyone into your heart and just keep it closed forever.
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