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writes:I am 14 years old dating a foreign exchange student who will be leaving in 8 months. We've been only dating exactly a month and I want to have sex with him because I know hes leaving and I need to fast forward... I know it's too soon and I'm too young.. and he's willing to wait until I'm ready but I feel like I'm taking it too slow... can u help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (16 November 2008):
 As a fellow 14 year old i gotta just tell you like it is girl. He's leaving in 8 months correct? If you have sex with him now after he leaves he'll have your virginity and you'll just be sitting there with nothing left. Save yourself. You'll come in contact with hundreds of other guys after this one is gone. Plus, you've only know him for a month, do you really know him? What's his mother's middle name? Is he allergic to soy products? Seriously! SAVE YOURSELF! Not only from teenage pregnancy, HIV, heartache, emotional issues. Save youself from the chances of meeting a guy you love and having him feel a little strange when you say "oh I lost my virginity when I was 14." And him thinking in the back of his head "Would I let he be the mother of my children?" SAVE YOURSELF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): You both feel it's too soon so leave it.When you have sex with someone it makes you very attached to them and this could make you unhappy if the relationship wasn't right or if you were separated.If you make a full relationship, you will know when the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Hi Sirina,
cross my heart and swear to die.
" At 14 I was never tempted to do anything wrong, dangerous, that I would regret."
Only because I was studying too hard to be the first ranker and didn't have any opportunities to do so.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 JustChillin,
Why do you have to be so mean?
I agree that this girl has no business having sex with her boyfriend, but passing value judgements is not our place.
Honestly, who can look back at age 14 and say, "I was never tempted to do anything wrong, dangerous, that I would regret?"
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reader, cuteblonde124 +, writes (5 November 2008):
 you are only fourteen. WAITTT girl. hes leaving anyways, and yall have not been going out that long
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (5 November 2008):
Don't tell us where you live, but what are some fun things to do where you live?
More ideas: If you live in New York, for example, you could take him to a Broadway play?
If you're lucky enough to live in Florida, like I said, you can take him to the beach.
Even in North Carolina (where I live) you could go hiking in the mountains with him.
There are some really beautiful places to hike in Texas if you're into that.
Go to an outdoor concert and see a blues band? Or go to a concert? Whatever kind of music you're into (I'm probably the only weirdo that liked blues at age 14 lol)What bands are you guys into?
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (4 November 2008):
There are things that you guys can do that are much more special, and memorable than sex. You're only 14, and it would be wrong to have sex under these circumstances, and I know that you love him, but you will regret it.I think that instead, you should do something with him that will create a special memory for you to look back and not regret. Perhaps you could go to the beach with him, or you could go to a stable and go horseback riding, or you could go to Six Flags, Disney World or Sea World with him. That may or may not work, depending on where you live, but there are loads of special things that you can do together that you will not regret. You get the idea. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Don't have sex with him, it will only make things worse. You miss him already and he hasn't even gone. If you have sex with him you will miss him so terribly and the pain will be very, very intense. It's best you just say goodbye. If you and him are meant to be together then you will. True love conquers all, if you love him, if he loves you, one day when you are both older you will be together. Don't have sex in a rush. First time sex is rarely any good, it's embarrassing and it hurts. What if that happens to you? It will ruin all the good memories that you have built together. If you love something let it go, and if it loves you, it will come back someday. Rushed, underage sex is no good, it won't be something beautiful and that's what your love deserves.
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reader, plymonth  +, writes (4 November 2008):
I have always thought it was a cliche, but it is the most beautiful thing to wait for the guy who you want to spend your life with. I know it now, and I'm so happy I waited for him.
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reader, roxypumkin4ev +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Damn, that female was harsh on ya but she's absolutely correct. Don't you dare have sex @ 14 it just doesn't look good. Am 20 yrs old and am still waitng for that special someone. Might not find him but it's worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2008): Goodness Gracious!I never realized guys had feelings.Thanks for changing my opinion.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (4 November 2008):
 My dear poster, you make me feel like a teen-ager again. Once, many years ago, I felt what you felt. She was leaving, and would never return. I tried to get every drop of juice life would give me when I was with her, and, after she left, I clung to strands of her hair.
I was right in living all that with her. I didn't care it was forbidden love. I was wrong in not wanting it to end, and in not stopping to think about what I was doing. Saying that I did it for love is no excuse.
Live your love with your guy but don't have sex with him. You're too young to do it, whether he's leaving or staying.
I honestly hope your love grows to be that strong that you're together again, for many, many decades of happiness. If it should not, learn to cherish those moments in your heart, and carry on. I know I will never see that woman again. Yet, in my heart, she's always mine. As Frankie sang once, "They can't take that away from you".
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reader, JustChillin +, writes (4 November 2008):
 Why would you do that to yourself? Seriously, why would you have sex at age 14, and why would you have sex with someone that is going to be moving away.
Why don't you just go out on the streets and become a streetwalker (prositute)...at least that way, you'll be getting paid for it...SEX!! Afterall...you've taken all the beauty out of SEX. Do you not realize that SEX is something that two responsible ADULTS engage in as means of sharing their LOVE with one another. I said two ADULTS....NOT two TEENAGERS!!
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