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writes:ok i have this really gig problem i am with a guy that is alot older than me and i like him so much but im so scared of getting close to him and have any kind of sexually contact with him because im scared of catching something and afraid that he is only using me please help me out if you can thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (11 August 2009):
if you think somethings wrong and if a situation is scaring you, avoid it , till your instincts tell you the opposite. you shud be comfortable with any sexual contact thats happening in a relationship.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 August 2009):
 rcn + ?, writes (11 August 2009):
I agree with the other poster. If I were interested in a girl, but afraid of catching something, I'd become not so interested quickly. Your first duty is to yourself, and you do not owe anyone or are obligated to give sexual anything. It sounds like this is someone you'll want to stay away from. At lease keep your cloths on. No desire, or 2-? minutes is worth risking your health.
TOTALLY AGREE.
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reader, SweetStu  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 ok i have this really gig problem i am with a guy that is alot older than me and i like him so much but im so scared of getting close to him and have any kind of sexually contact with him because im scared of catching something and afraid that he is only using me please help me out if you can thanks
Hi,
Two things here:
Do you have reasons to believe that he may have any sexually transmitted infections?
If you are just being wary, or some may say 'paranoid'. Then that's the best attitude to have with any sexual partner, new or otherwise. If you are having penetrative sex without protection, then you are at a much higher risk to infection/s. If you have cause for concern and if he is worth it, agree to both get tested at your local clinic. It's very routine and is the only way you will be sure.
If you are afraid he is using you then what reasons do you have?
It sounds as though you either don't know this man very well or he has given you reason to have these beliefs. If he is using you then seek his reassurance, tell him that you're worried, and ask him how serious he considers your relationship.
Good luck with it all. :o)
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 August 2009):
 I agree with the other poster. If I were interested in a girl, but afraid of catching something, I'd become not so interested quickly. Your first duty is to yourself, and you do not owe anyone or are obligated to give sexual anything. It sounds like this is someone you'll want to stay away from. At lease keep your cloths on. No desire, or 2-? minutes is worth risking your health.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): If he is the type of guy who would use for sex and have a sexual disease, then you SHOULD be afraid to get close to him and SHOULDN'T get anywhere near him. Why don't you find a nice, clean guy with good intentions.
~Sy.
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