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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a good several months now. I was over his place today and he was talking about meeting my parents. He never gave a specific date or anything but he was talking about doing it at some point. I just get worried because im pretty cryptic and secretive about my dating life towards my parents. I never exactly tell them about anyone I date because honestly.. the relationships were insignificant and only lasted about a week and were never worth mentioning and getting hyped up over. But my boyfriend now... i feel that im falling in love with him and hes the first guy ive ever really liked. I just get nervous because hes a bit older than me... Im 21 and hes 34 so i wonder what my parents will think of that. This will be the first time i've ever brought a guy over to meet the parents and i want them to like him. Any tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): I'd advise that you should, shortly before introducing him to them, tell them a bit about him and mention his age. Explain your feelings for him, and assuming you agree with this then add something along the lines of 'age shouldn't matter as long as two people really love each other and really want to be together'. Ultimately thought, you're an adult now, and if your parents don't like him or don't approve of the age gap, then there really isn't anything they can do about it.
Best of luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 Your parents have no say in who you choose to be involved with. They must be polite and accept your choice. But you can't make them like him. If they don't like him, that doesn't mean you have to leave him.
I don't know how you should introduce him to them. Any way you do it, bear the above in mind.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 Be honest with your parents and show them how happy you are with him. He will then be in charge of the rest in terms impressions and such. It really comes down to the fact that you are still two adults and if your have a happy relationship then your parents should be happy as well.
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reader, malletchick76 +, writes (4 July 2012):
 I would suggest to have a lunch or dinner with just you and your parents first. So that when you break the news to them it's not over the phone (less of a shock) and y'all can let out any tension before you bring your boyfriend over. This next part is completely up to you. You could let them know he's 34 or just not even mention it. If the age difference doesn't matter to you, then I wouldn't bring it up.
Good luck :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 Off course you are going to be nervous, you have never brought a man home to meet your parents and off course it is going to worry you what they will think about the age gap, even though you are an adult you are still there baby girl. I think it is time though you opened up to your parents, and tell them about this guy you are dating and how happy he makes you. Tell them how good he is to you and that you really like him. Then if they ask tell them his age but do not make a huge deal out of it. I hope that they accept this and are happy for you. You have nothing to lose though so just be honest with them and ask them is it okay to bring him around to meet them so they can see for themselves how happy you are together. Good luck.
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