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*aydilla11
writes:I recently started talking to my ex-fiance (we broke up 2 years ago). Everything in my life was going fine till my sister calls me and tell me she (my ex-fiance) wants to talk to me again and misses me and has feelings for me and all that.. I still have feelings for her so i sent her a text and we started talking and we have been on twice and kissed so i know we still like each other..Now what has me confused is she tells me she wants to make sure i am a changed person and she needs time to soak it in and it all happen so fast... that's fine i agree with that i also need time to think and take it slow, but maybe i am just over reacting but when we talk she seems distant maybe its her wall up or something but i feel like shes not as into it as I am what should i think about this situation? We have only been talking for 3 weeks and as of now we haven't spoken in 6 days i have no idea what to think anymore what should i do? or what should i think?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (4 July 2012):
 This is kind of strange for her to contact you and then make ultimatums about your behavior. I would definitely talk with her about what she means by her statements and go from there. Aside of that, it is very hard to make things work with someone who seems distant. The reason I say that is because when you feel someone is distant, you also feel she is not being genuine or open with you. So, in return, you feel distant yourself. Very difficult situation to be in. I would talk with her and see what her expectations are. If you do not feel you can live up to them, I would tell her.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 July 2012):
 It depends on what she means by she wants you to change? Have you spoke to her about this and asked her what exactly it is that she wants, and are you sure you are able to give it to her? If you have to change yourself to be with someone then maybe she is just not the right girl for you. You both need to communicate more. I can see the sense in taking things slow, and I do believe that there are still feelings there on both sides but if it never worked out first time, then there must have been a reason and this reason needs to be addressed and solved before you can both be serious again. I am guessing she does have a wall up due to the fact that she does not want to get hurt.
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