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writes:We met about a year ago in strip club where I was working. He tipped me good and told me that he want to meet me outside of the club. So I gave him my number. He knew I was escorting so he asked to meet. I really liked him so i went to see him. I enjoyed our time together very much and i wish i could spend more time with him...Then I went out of town for a while. When I came back I saw him again, and it was some sparkle between us. He seemed very happy to see me, i was trying not to freak out and acted normally :)Then we started to meet more and more. I mean we don't plan our meeetings ( i wish we did) but we just go to the same places and see each other all the time. And every time I see him i feel that sparkle between us...We texted each other sometimes and talked on the phone.I didn't know how to make him like me so I told him that i quited my job. Then he told that's very good and he's looking for girlfriend and invited me on date....I really don't know what to do because i really like him a lot and there is chemistry between us but he willnever accept my job(not a lot of guy will do). Has anyone been in the same situation? What should I do?Please no rude answers as my heart is already broken and all i need is advice.Thank youPS: English is my second language and i've just learned it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for advices. I've decided to go on date with him and WILL tell him the truth. Hopefully it'll work out because I really really really like him. I'm not going to quit escorting until i'll reach my goal. This will take a while. By the way he's a drug dealer and he's not an angel too. I don't use drugs and never did. So maybe we'll be perfect for each other :)
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reader, TimmD +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I think you are going to have to choose him or your job. Unfortunately somebody with your job can't always have both. Which one is more important to you?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 If you told him you quit your job, and you have not actually quit, that means anything you build with him is based on a lie.
You better tell him the truth on date, or you will lose him forever. If he finds out about the lie on his own, he will never commit to you. He will likely have sex with you, but he will never commit to you if he deems you to be just a liar.
-Frank
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I used to work as a dancer in a ladyboy bar in Bangkok and escorting was a part of the territory and, well, I have been in your situation. The guy was sweet and tender, loved me for who I was and accepted that I would continue in my situation for a while longer. Eventually it didn't work out, for reasons that did not have anything to do with my profession, but the fact is that he was broad-minded enough to make it work.
You may have found a good guy here. Go out with him, see how it works out - do try to hold out on the sex. Make it a real "date" where two people get to know each other better. If you find you two gel well, that you like him, well maybe it WILL work out in the end.
At some point of time you'll have to tell him you haven't quit though and tell him how long you intend to continue. After that maybe you two can work whether you have a future together.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Wow, your english is fabulous! Allow him to take out you out, he's accepted you already! Just take things slow....and remember that the past is the past, it has no place in your future. Now, you can sign up for courses at a college and take courses that lead to a more fulfilling career. An associate's degree takes two years. I know people who study nursing for 2yrs and start making a good $40,000 every year :) Good luck!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 But it seems as though he has already accepted you. Just enjoy your date with him, let him treat you like a princess and make you feel beautiful. If there is that sort of spark between you, both of you will be happy regardless of whatever happened. And worry not, you are not the first woman to be put in this sort of position, many have made it through problems with their career. If you have quit your escort job, that is even better! So put a smile on your face and let him mend your broken heart and fill it with the crimson pulse of joy.
(You write in excellent english! I never would have guess it was your second language)
I hope that helps.
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