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writes:A while ago I met someone online who told me that he liked me about a month ago. I know to be careful on the Internet as people may not be who they say they are, but given the site I met him on, as well as seeing photos and talking through Skype, he seems pretty genuine.We've talked about meeting but the problem is I live in the UK and he is a Marine currently posted in Japan. At first I thought this would be great, because I've always wanted to go to Japan and would like to live there in the future. But I'm worried that after the first meet, if it happens, I won't be able to afford regular visits, and neither will he as he saves up to visit family. I know that maybe I shouldn't worry so early, as some people can meet and never hit it off. So should we give up pursuing a relationship because of this, or go ahead with our plan to meet (as unlikely as it still seems)? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Continue saving up some money and keep talking. Use Skype to have "dates," like drinking coffee together or playing a card or dice game (get creative!). Continue getting to know each other before you invest money into a trip. Even if you never meet, but you've been saving money, at the very least you'll have a nice wad of cash to spend on something wonderful and fun (or practical!) for yourself.
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reader, katebaby17  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Of course, why not plan it! You never know what is going to happen. Although, don't have such high expectations for the guy because I mean you haven't met and he may not be what you think. Just one visit won't be too much and it can help you plan out whether you really do need to worry about how to see him and how much it will cost. Because, you haven't even met him yet and you don't know if you actually would want to be with him so you need to figure this out first ! (: Good luck. xoxo
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