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36-40,
*hrisC
writes:So I met this girl and got her number. I called her up a few days later and left her a voicemail about getting together. Almost two days passed and I didn't hear from her and then she texted me. We set up a date for the next week. It went extremely well I thought. We even shared a kiss at the end. I texted her a few days later about a second date. It took her almost a day to get back to me. But eventually she did and we set up a second date, that I thought went really well too. Again, we shared a kiss at the end of the night. So I texted her the next day to wish her a good weekend and told her I'd call her soon to get together again. She took hours to respond.So I called her up Monday and left her a message and asked her to get back to me. Heard nothing the rest of the day Monday, didn't hear from her Tuesday, so yesterday I tried again. Left another voicemail, told her I'd love to see her again and asked her to let me know if she's interested. Didn't hear back from that one either.So what gives? I could have sworn this girl was interested in me. The dates went well. She let me kiss her. She put her arm around me. But now I haven't heard from her in days? Has she lost interest? She took a long time as it is to respond to my texts or calls, but this has been the longest time.How should I proceed? Should I just let it go and not worry about it and let her contact me? Or should I try once again to contact her in a few days? I'm just really confused because the vibes she gave off suggested that she was into me. Her response times to me however, suggest otherwise. I'm confused. Is she interested or just playing games? Or could she be genuinely super busy this week?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 September 2012):
 Ok, she is being passive- aggressive and that is definitely not nice , but what do you want to do, OP, go on a crusade to teach her good manners, and twist her arm till she utters : " Ok, I admit it, I don't really like you, and I don't appreciate you being such a pest and drowning me in voice mails " ?
Be a good sport, and leave it nonchalantly be. That's dating for you : you win some, you lose some. And at times you get mixed or misleading signals.
If I am wrong , as I hope I am, she'll will pop up on her own with an apology and a valid explanation for her delay in answering , which it will be up to you accepting or not.
If she does not contact you .. thank you, NEXT !
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (13 September 2012):
 Well I was younger and thought it was obvious on the date that I was uninterested. Some I would say I am still into my ex, others wouldn't listen to anything so they were ignored instead. With her kissing you it's a different situation. Anyhow you have got plenty of responses now saying to let it go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): Probably won't get you anywhere except back to square one in contacting her again. When I'm into a guy, I get him back right away, watch my phone hoping that's him, can't wait to engage with him.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (13 September 2012):
 Hi,
You now need to leave it to her to contact you. You have done all you can. Give it about a week and then look at other girls. Maybe she changed her mind, maybe this, maybe that. Let her call you. DO NOT contact her anymore. This will lead to a loss of attraction.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (13 September 2012):
 I think chris C now you need to step back,u sent her a voicelmail err 2 voicemails well now its her turn to get back to you..there might be a possibility of her just playing hard to get,may be she doesn't want to come out too easy,but if u keep running after her it won't benefit you in any way u'l just come across as clingy which will make her wonder 2 dates and he'l called me soo many times,how is it going to be if we do date..
I were you I would leave it.,and wait for the girl to respond and when she does you should take a day too to get back to her,so she knows how it feels,don't be too available..you need to make her run after you as well;)
Good luck
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reader, ChrisC +, writes (13 September 2012):
ChrisC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah well in my opinion ignoring someone instead of telling them you aren't interested is pretty distasteful and disrespectful. The idea that someone is "too nice to say no" is ridiculous. People need to grow up and tell people how they feel instead of ignoring like immature kids do.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 September 2012):
 Either she is playing "hard to get" or she isn't interested.
I would not call or text her again. You ASKED her to call you back. She didn't.
Honestly, I would move on.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (13 September 2012):
 She'd contact you if she was interested, so don't contact her again.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (13 September 2012):
After 2 calls and voicemails I wouldn't. If she's interested she will get back in touch. I've had guys in the past I was trying to ditch by ignoring them and they kept texting every few days. I didn't see why they didn't get the hint and it became embarrassing. Of course I should've told them I wasn't interested but it's easier to just ignore it. She could be doing the same or dating around. Either way you did enough. I promise you if someone is interested they will call or text you back.
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reader, ChrisC +, writes (13 September 2012):
ChrisC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. So it wouldn't be a good idea even to send her a text a few days from now to just see what's up?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (13 September 2012):
She could be playing games. Could also be juggling a couple different dates, which is fine when the two of you arent exclusive. Either way you called her twice and left voicemails. It's up to her now. There is no reason to call again, you will begin to look desperate. If she calls back then you can ask what's up with the delay to get back to you. If she doesn't then forget her. You have done more than enough to show interest, it's her turn if she is indeed interested in pursuing this.
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