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writes:I thought i had it all the perfect friends the perfect man and the perfect job .... i worked all my life to get the job i have now and at the end of the day I'm so miserable! my job took me away from home so i grew distant with my friends and my relationship fell apart because of the long distance, but hey i was in show business so at least i could be happy i had a job, right?But im not, I'v never felt so low in confidence and alone in my life i sit at home alone when im not at work its not that the people I work with aren't nice people, they are but they're into drugs and stuff and not just my kind of people ... i've spoken to my family about it and they say im just going through a bad spell .... but im so unhappy in everything i cant sleep at nights now and sleep all day long and go to work and put on a fake smile for 3 hours on stage then come home and lie awake in bed with my thoughts ... i've tried to get hobbies but the language barrier doesn't help. i just feel so alone and worthless at the minute and dont know what to do ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I think that perhaps you are stressed out, and more than likely experiencing depression. But at least you realize that something is wrong. You have 2 options: Do something about it, or do nothing and things will probably get worse. What will make you happy? If you don't like your job, then certainly look for another. If you miss your family, stay in touch with them. Would you be happier being closer to home? You are wise to realize something isn't right, so that's half the battle right there. But don't continue to feel this way, please talk to someone, change your situation. Everyone goes through times like this, but you have to help yourself if you are unhappy! Good luck sweetie.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 You have two choices...accept this and do nothing or make some changes. I agree with SaraOwen, it does sound from your post that you are experiencing some form of depression - and that may actually be stopping you from being able to assess the situation and take steps forward...hard to make life changing decisions and set goals when all you want to do is curl up in bed!
I really do think you should try and find a psyhologist to first - assess you and second - treat you, you really need alot of support to work through this stuff...
don;t freak out though - what you desribe is not uncommon and you can feel better!
Take care.
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reader, kaui57  +, writes (14 October 2008):
I don't think you're going through a bad spell. I think you're making a smart decision to stay away from the coworkers who are doing drugs. Try to get out and meet with other people who have similar interests as you...if possible. I understand that you have a hectic work schedule, but try to meet with or talk to the friends you still have because they can really help you escape from work life. Now for your work life...if you're unhappy about your job, I believe strongly in working at a job you enjoy. I know that sometimes that's not always feasible because of money, but I guarantee you that if you hate it already, it's just going to make your outlook on life in general more negative. If you find a job that you like then everything else should fall into place. I know..easier said than done, but hang in there!!!
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reader, SarahOwen +, writes (14 October 2008):
You sound depressed. Find a counsellor or a therapist you can talk things through with. And start looking for another job?
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