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writes:hi im looking for some real advice not just someone telling me im too young or lecturing me. so first off im 16 but have lived through enough my mentality is more like 25 most people think im 21 even. im in college this year and there's a professor i have who i was attracted to from the beginning of the year. as i got to know him more i started to develop real feelings for him. hes a personal guy anyway but i have seen subtle hints that hes interested but im not sure. for example: he asks me to stop by his office frequently and always shuts the door which he normally doesn't do, also hes genuinely interested in helping me with more than school work such as court situations family probs, etc... he is very open with me about his past and personal life too. often when i look up from my work i catch him watching me with a smile on his face. hes caught me smoking pot and promised he would keep it "our secret". im scared im falling for him though because when our fingers brushed my heart raced we locked eyes my breath hitched and i swear the world started to spin. his voice sends chills up my spine and i could talk to him for hours. i have never felt this before with anyone in fact i used to make fun of people who claimed to feel such things. whenever im around him i want to stay there as long as possible and his smell just intoxicates me. all the characteristics i have looked for in a man he has. ive never met anyone who could have such strong effects on me. im not sure what to do or how to interpret things. i think he felt the sparks between us too by the way he looks at me and talks to me but am not sure. help anyone? btw sorry about being lengthy...
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reader, marzbarr  +, writes (11 November 2010):
just wait till you turn 18 or older and leave school than maybe something will happen. LOL i dont know if thats legal
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 November 2010):
If you were genuinely mature, aged 25 in your head, then you would know that a teacher-student relationship is illegal, that he would get fired (which is something I'm hoping you don't want), and that if something did happen it would make him a sex offender.
He is a teacher. You are a student. That's as far as it will ever go without you getting expelled, or him losing his job and going to prison.
Crushes on teachers are natural, and perfectly healthy so long as they remain just that. There's nothing wrong with you, and you'll develop into a very healthy, normal adult. But please use that mature head of yours and think. It is illegal, he will get fired and jailed, you will get expelled.
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reader, hiro06 +, writes (9 November 2010):
I know how you feel I had a crush on a teacher in High School and got so far as me getting her number and me visiting her after school when she got sent to a different school and she also went to my graduation. Well anyways sorry about the side note lol. I know exactly where you are coming from but the best thing to do is keep your relationship student-teacher. From a professional stand point if you guys did get involved and you got caught he would be fired as a professor and probable lose his teaching license. And from your stand point you still are young and you are going to make some mistake some bigger than other, but realize you may seem or feel grown up but we can all still afford to learn a lesson or two. Well anyways, just realize you probable arent going to find Mr. Right right in the beginning of college lets face it its not that easy. The best thing to do is keep feelings as they are feelings and realize you will love again. Nothing last forever and time heal all wounds even broken hearts.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 You can try telling the judge you're not 16- that you feel like 25 all you like, its not going to make a lick of difference to him losing his job for life.
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