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writes: Hi I am 14 years old and I feel Im getting to that age where I think I should lose my virginty. I don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I really wanna not be a virgin anymore. Any advice?StIlLaViRgInNY Reply to this Question
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reader, sbw1989  +, writes (28 July 2006):
 Hon, you don't NEED to lose your virginity. You're curious about what it feels like, sure, but you don't need to. It's like saying "I need a boyfriend" because you've never had one, and want to know what it's like. Maybe your friends are talking about it, but they are lying, or they are very foolish. Don't be either. At 14, there are more important things than a relationship and sex, like school. Trust me. You're not there for nothing.Besides, you'd regret having sex at this age, you really would. Plus it's against the law!Virginity is something you'll never get back. DO NOT THROW IT AWAY TO THE FIRST BOY WHO WINKS IN YOUR DIRECTION!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): I lost my virginity at 15 and im regretting it now. so i think you should wait, and save it for someone special.
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reader, thelilangelnooneforgets16 +, writes (18 July 2006):
my dear you shouldnt be looking to lose your virginity yet. You are only 14 and you should be able to enjoy your teens. I hate to say this but you are still a child. I dont think you are ready for this step. Please dont. You could have a potential of being a teen mother. My best friend lost her virginity @ 15 and she is a mother. She has to take care of her child because the childs father wont claim him. They had a one night stand and she has a child from it. Think about it.
Do you want to hang out with your friends? Do you want to go to dances, play games, etc? Do you want to have a one nite stand? What makes it so important to lose your virginity now? Your 14 not 17 or 18. Please i dont want you to be stuck in a situation that you would regret. As much as my friend loves her daughter she hates that she missed being a teen
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (8 July 2006):
 OK, I'm 14, and I don't want to lose my virginity! Sometimes I think 'it would be great to have a boyfriend' but so do a lot of people.
Some girls who have had sex are desperate to get their virginity back. It's not something most people want to throw away. Its something you're meant to treasure. It's not like giving jewelery, or clothes away. Your virginity can NEVER be replaced.
You shouldn't give you virginity to any guy. He has to be special to you, and you to him. Make sure he's your prince before you jump into anything to fast. Stay strong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): r u mad, u shouldnt just give it away to any 1 , u will regret it
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reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (5 July 2006):
 ya know i really cant stand 14 year old girls at minute why do you all think you have to be so grown up so quickly?
lads will use you if your not careful your just an easy shag to put it bluntly you might think your not stupid and you know what your doing but honestly you dont your still soooo nieve even if you think you arnt.
unless you wanna be known as the village bike by the time your 17 then dont do it go back to school and finish puberty with the rest of the little girl crew
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reader, Angel Wings +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Virginity is a most specific asperation of our lives.
Don't let others make you feel insecure because of this, you obviously have a lot of self respect (Pride).
I know of girls 30 who are still virgins, it is a very precious aspect of our lives.
What you need most of all is to gain more self reassurance: Self confidence and a smile to brighten your days...
God Bless.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (4 July 2006):
WHAT FOR THE RIGHT GUY. BELIEVE ME IT WILL MEAN MORE TO YOU
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reader, bonym +, writes (4 July 2006):
 My dear stop right there. Why do you think that you are at the age that you need to lose your virginity? Virginity is a beautiful thing, and at 14 you have no place to be wanting to lose it, you are ridiculously young and sex should not even be on your mind. Why dont you want to be a virgin anymore? Would you rather perhaps run the risk of getting pregnant or God forbid, you get an STI/STD? Do you really want that at 14? My dear, wait until you are older physically and mentally and dont treat virginity as some kind of acne that you need to get rid of. Once its gone ITS GONE. Save it till you are in love and comitted to someone. xXx
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Hello
Losing your virginity should be a special moment between you and that special someone!!! It’s not something that you can just Throw away because you don’t want it anymore! Cos once you have thrown it away you can NEVER get it back… Never get the special moment back! If you waste it now on some loser that’s not worth it, you’ll regret it, as you can never share that moment with the one you truly like!
Your still young give yourself more time to think about this and don’t waste your virginity just because you think it needs to be lost (for what ever reasons you have). Don’t waste your Special Moment!
My Best Wishes
Nicki xxx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Your only 14, why would you want to lose your innocence for no apparent reason ? Have a little respect for yourself girl. The age of consent is 16 in the Uk for a reason, I personally feel this should now be raised to 18! Cant believe that some people just want to have sex for the sake of having sex and to lose thier virginty for nothing ?? Why do you want to lose your virginity ? Just because others may have done doesnt mean you have to! I fail to see why a 14 year old just wants to have sex to get it other with ? Whats the rush ? I strongly advise against it as you really are not ready to take this step or you wouldnt be asking this really silly question. YOu dont want to be a virgin anymore!? and you havent got a boyfriend ? What gives ? Why ? I really dont see why you need to or in fact want to!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 Losing your virginity isn't like getting your ears pierced, or deciding to get a weekend job. People rarely decide that "it's time" and go out to lose it.
There's a reason for that. Sex is fraught with complications, and not just the ones you expect, like pregnancy and STIs, and the possibilities of discomfort and disappointment. There are also complications you might not expect, like unwanted emotional entanglement with someone who might not even care about you. (For a start, read the question a few below yours about someone who fell in love with a one night stand.)
I think your statement may actually have more to it than you really understand. You might be trying to say that you feel sexually frustrated, or that you want to be taken seriously by others, or that you feel some aspects of your life are behind your peers.
Think a lot more about what you actually want when you say "I don't want to be a virgin". What does being a virgin represent to you? What do you think will be different if you have sex? And when you know the answers to those questions, ask yourself what you think will be changed afterward.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 July 2006):
 I hope this is a joke question. But if not...
My advice is: think about why you feel you should lose your virginity. It's a strange thing to feel you ought to lose it but to not have a boyfriend. Do you think you know why that is?
You should certainly not lose your virginity until you know the answer to that question.
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