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writes:My mom and my step dad have been together ever since I was in kindergarten. I am fifteen now.They have been on and off basically my whole life. Separating then getting back together, etc. I have never really had a problem with it.A couple of days ago, my mom went out of town. My step dad had left his cellphone out on the table, and I started going through his text messages.He and this girl were talking, and he was saying stuff like, 'you're so pretty' and she was saying stuff like, 'stop you're making me blush' flirting and what not.I told my mom about it, and now he is moving out. I feel really bad because my mom is upset about it, and I don't know what to do. I feel like I should have never told her, because it wasn't like the texts were that bad, and I should never have been snooping around in his cellphone in the first place.I feel like it is all my fault.. I don't know what to do, does anybody have any advice for me?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 March 2009):
 Hi there,
You need to stop feeling bad about what you did. Think about it, you saved your Mom from a life with a dishonest, deceptive, cheating man. Had you not told your Mom, she'd be completely oblivious to the shady business your step Dad was participating in. This gives your step Dad the opportunity to grow and prove yourself to your Mother or for your Mom and step Dad to find happiness elsewhere.
You have done the right thing. Don't feel badly about it. It's not your fault. It's your step Dad's fault for screwing up. And people make mistakes, but this one needed to be exposed. Good job!!
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 March 2009):
 Its not your fault, odds are she would of caught him herself doing such things. You did the best thing you could of done, that was tell her of his actions so she could sort things out as she felt appropriate. It could of escalated into an affair and your mother would of been hurt worse emotionally or possibly physically.
Its not your fault don't worry any more about, try to find something to take your mind off of it. My parents divorced when i was young and i had to deal with this sort of thing, trust me the best thing you can do is just not worry about it and don't blame yourself.
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reader, KiaGrace +, writes (19 March 2009):
 I am just making an assumption here, but your mom and dad have probably been having other problems lately as well, and this just topped it off. Honey, it isn't your fault your mom had a right to know, if there marriage is strong, i am sure they will get through it.. next time don't be so nosy and make sure you are there for your mom.
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