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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:After years of verbal abuse i have decided its best for me and my child to leave, but i cant seem to just leave im scared he will take my 15 month away from meand of his reaction, i know what i need to do but i dont know how. i dont know how to tell him i dont love him anymore or that i cant handle him and that we would be better apart as we live different lives anyway he sleeps when im up etc...how can he not realise there is a problem with us when we hardly sleep together anymore he wont do anything as a family and we live in different times of daywhat do i do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Typically, a mother has to be shown vastly incompetent to lose physical custody of her child.
Don't let this stop you from leaving.
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reader, karasu10  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 hmmmm first i would record him and his verbal abuse for ur own personal evidence. if he decides to take u to court u have proof that he isnt fit to take care of your child. its sneaky and risky but you need to protect yourself.
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reader, OmShantih  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Is there anywhere safe You and Your child can go where he will be unable to find you and in which you will be safe??
I dont advise trying to leave until you have somewhere that is safe for you both to go.
I really feel for you, but I think you have the right mentality towards this situation, its not healthy for any of you especially your child and I think you wanting to leave is exactly the right thing to do for your child and you, whether he see's it or not. look for local organisations near you that support women in your situation.
I think you are incredibley brave to leave, it takes an average of 17 times for a woman to leave an abusive relationship, Abuse is unacceptable, what ever the capacity.
I wish you all the best, Love and Light
x
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