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anonymous
writes:I don't get this girl, we talked one day she tells me how she does not want a relationship with anybody and is not willing to lose me. She does not want to be tied down to a guy, and well she told me she would only date a guy she didn't really know. She is moving either this summer or next spring, to a new city and she does not want a long distance relationship, as she told me. I took everything at face value, but a week ago we went out and ended up kissing each other. Now she was teasing me the whole night and well then I couldn't control myself and kissed her (technically she kissed me first on the neck). This was after she told me how she didn't want to date me, ugh I feel confused. She got dumped 2 months ago by a guy who she dated for 8 months. Me and this girl had a history of 2 years together in a relationship. It bugs me that I lost control of myself and made out with her, but the question on my mind. Why did she let me kiss her after she told me she didn't want to lead me on and all that stuff?
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (24 January 2011):
 It seems to me that she doesn't want anything serious. That means she just want to have some fun right now.
So, since there will be no emotional relationship in the future, she's clearly offering you physical one.
Here are your choices:
1)Stop seeing her.
2)Enjoy the sexual part of the relationship and don't get
emotionally attached
3)Continue seeing her while expecting a rather serious
relationship and probably get hurt.
Points she made:
=She told you she moving to new soon (that means away from you) and she does not want her life to get complicated because of a relationship(relationship would probably convinced her to stay).
=She got out of a relationship recently and you might be her rebound guy.
=She is attracted to you obviously(kissed you first).
I think she made it pretty clear for you. I would suggest option number one. But if you are up for it go for number two.
Good luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): You are confused, and she is confusing you more.. ask her what do you want straight, she shouldn't be playing with you, period and you seem to like her, but if she doesn't clear out her mind.. look for someone else..
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