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writes:hi i am 14 and i recently went to a football match and i really like one of the footballers i saw playing (it was a pre season match) i cant stop thinking about him although i have only seen him twice (i saw him in his car on the way home ) he is 21 i really dont want to feel this way but i cant help it .he plays in the coca cola championship by the way .can someone give me some advice to get my mind of him pleasexxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Lost in Translation  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Crushes are great! It's cool getting butterflys in your stomach when you see someone you really like!! For now and for the next 4-5 years crush away! I guarantee by then when your old enough to chat this lad up those butterfly's will have flown away! ps: My first crush was Damon Albarn (blur) when I was 14, I was gutted when I found out he had a girlfriend and over the moon when they broke up! I went to lots of their concerts and each song that was sang was sung for me and it was defintley me he was looking at at each gig!! I was gonna be his Mrs Albarn living in a "very big house in the country"!! Enjoy your teens!!
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (1 August 2007):
It is merely a crush. Other advice here is really good and in your shoes I would act on it. As for this fellow maybe keep in touch regarding a fan club or if you know any of his other friends or relatives see how it goes and if you still feel the same in five years or so maybe make a move then.
If you were to make a move now I would be very surprised if he would make any move to reciprocate it and would be most concerned about him if he did.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Congratulations! You got your first crush/infactuation on a much, too much older guy. It's okay. Just know that it isn't going to go anywhere. It's like when I was 14 and I had crushes on all the rock stars at every concert. Like any of them would've given me a second glance. It's okay, but your best bet would be to simply look around school and put your attention on someone who is attainable. Good luck and p.s. I still get crushes sometimes on unattainable guys, like Nicholas Cage, or Johnny Depp, but I don't spend much time thinking about them.
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 August 2007):
 This is all part of growing up, to have crushes on film stars, singers, footballers is quite normal. As penta says don't act on it, you are way to young for him. Over the narural course of time these feelings will die down, and you will more than likely find someone else you are smitten with, this is just how it works, enjoy it!!!
Good luck x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (1 August 2007):
 He definately wont be interested in a 15 year old, and quite rightly so. So you need to meet some more people your age. Any clubs you can join?
C xxxxxx
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reader, lovehate +, writes (1 August 2007):
 hey hunni. What your feeling is a crush, do not panic everyone gets them at one point in their life. Just try to think that he is nothing special and that he is too old for anything to ever happen. Slowly in time you will get bored, i promise you ;)
I hope this helped. X
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reader, penta  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 It's normal to have crushes on guys, even older guys. Feel free to enjoy the crush. But do NOT act on it. You're illegal for him, and a guy that much older who likes 13-15 year old girls is kinda creepy.
Get busy, so you won't think of him as much. Join a sport or a club where you'll meet a guy your own age. THOSE crushes you can act on.
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