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writes:Hi Aunts. I hope no one will be offended by my question. My boyfriend and I would like to try anal sex. I like the idea and am excited about it but I am just secretly worried that there will be p** on him or that it would smell or there might be wind or something embarrasing. What is it like for a man to see his girlfriends p**? Does it not put him off? Is it easy to clean yourself out before and how do you do that safely? Thanks XxX
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reader, uncutdan  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Anal is great. make sure that when he starts to push his penis in, you push out like you are going to take a crap. this will relax the anal sphincter and allow him to enter fairly easy. then have him use lots of lube at first and when you are both ok, go at it. Enjoy!
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reader, longandhung +, writes (8 March 2010):
give yourself a enema to clean your rectum,maybe insert a finger or 2 in your anus to see how it feels with some lube also. Apply lots of lube to anus before insertion of anything like a penis or a toy. Slowly bear down will help with penetration and no pain at all. Go slowly with anal sex. if you cum in your partners rectum, finish cumming before exiting the rectum. be sure to wipe anus and ass cheeks when finished with anal sex. have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): Well... it can be painful but also enjoyable . I think it depends on being relaxed and talking it through. I once had it with someone who forced me really and it was my first time hurt like hell and it did tear me and hurt for weeks afterwards. He was really apologetic but it wasn't good. Later on I did it with the same person but this time aware and relaxed and with enough forplay I didn't need lubrication and it was AMAZING. So take your time and enjoy it and make sure the other person is allowing you to relax enough to do so it will be fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): My first wife was a huge anal fan... and he's my expereince.First Do NOT go buy a lube that will desisitize your anus. Anal sex done properly doesn't hurt. There may be some initial discomfort, but that quickly passes and the peasure takes over. You need the feedback from your body.In the 10 years that I was with the ex, we never had any "accidents" related to anything coming out on my penis, or anywhere else for that matter.She never used an emema and we used KY jelly exclusivly. We did (after years of doing this) occasionally manage anal w/o any outside lube, except her jucies...it was rare, and when it happended is was HOT...She would lay on her stomach, legs spread, and I'd lay on top... slow entry, hold still, continue in, hold still and then when she said 'go' the slow trusting would begin, working its way up to full and vigorious trusting. She would cum violently... and 3x harder than vaginal sex. A few times I thought she would pass out, but she never did.We never did any damage, no torn anything... I loved it!A condom helps him become a bit more smooth... I'd suggest AVOIDING set toys, as they tend to be more firm than a penis and can actually make it harder to learn to accept penetration. Fingers work well, or a firm but soft toy.If you want, take a warm bath, and use your fingers on your anus, loosing it up and washing... the warm water might help you relax too. If you drink, a glass or two of red wine might not hurt, but don't get drunk... just loosened up.There have been some HORRIFIC tales of folks doing anal while on heavy drugs (meth specifically)... AVOID... for a variety of reasons...you will need to be in total control, as your going to need to train the muscles to accept him.It's well worth the effort - for BOTH of you.
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reader, mattie90 +, writes (20 September 2009):
 ok this is what you should do. 1. go to a sex shop and purchase a anal lube its only used for anal and it has relaxent in it and its numbs everything, not completly though but just enough where it wont hurt as bad. 2. use a condom you can get infections. 3. go to the bathroom before you do it or a couple hours before. 4. just relax thats the most important thing you can do. if you tense up it will only hurt more.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Lots & lots of lube!! Relax...if you tense up then it will hurt. go very very slow and have him enter you very slow....also lots of foreplay before hand! Maybe try getting him to do normal sex for maybe 5 minutes then have him try doing anal.
Good Luck!
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reader, brandyy +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Ive never had any trouble with it, it just hurts so much sure you lube up!! But no worries on p** or it smelling bad, just make sure you dont have to go when you do it. but trust me im sure it'll be find! no worries! (:
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Okay so I have done it a couple times and I HATE IT. But I loved my boyfriend at the time so here are tips I did to hate it a bit less.Poop First then follow these steps.Lube: It HAS TO BE USED! Get silicone lube because water soluble lube will be absorbed in your rectum. The silicon will not and keep things lubed.Condom: Seriously! Its for his health AND yours. Your rectum will probably tear a bit and you want to make sure you aren't putting yourself at risk for STDS, HIV, or AIDS. I'm sure you love your boyfriend but you HAVE to be safe, you never know. PLUS its easier clean up.Penetration: I found it good for him to put some lube in your rectum first, try to get a finger or two in their. This will get you relaxed and lubed inside. Lube up himself (with the condom on) THEN slowly put it in. I can't stress this enough. SUPER slow. I also found bearing down with my muscles like I am going to poo. It for some reason helped him go in easier, help me relax, and feel less pain.Good luck. But UCH I hate it.
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reader, StrictLeeKink +, writes (20 September 2009):
 These are common concerns when venturing into anal territory for the first time. I am a guy but my girlfriend regularly takes me with her strapon so I have some experience in proper preparation. Here's some tips for you:
1. Try to prepare yourself beforehand. This means eating lightly for 1-2 days beforehand and try to get a lot of fiber. This will help you feel more comfortable and will make other preparations go more smoothly.
2. Do an enema. I prefer an actual enema bag that you can hang in your shower. However, if you are short on time and/or just beginning, I would recommend visiting a local drugstore and getting a disposable Fleet enema. These come prefilled with sanitary solution. If you need to flush more than once (I would recommend 2-3 times) you can usually unscrew the cap and refill with regular tap water. If you start doing these regularly, you'll want to use distilled water since there can be funny stuff in tap water.
3. Use good communication with your partner and ask that he goes SLOW. This is important! Your sphincter muscle will probably not be used to relaxing and expanding to such a degree and if he goes too fast it could be VERY painful. Also, try to exert control over your sphincter muscle. Once you learn to use it, it can be very responsive. You'll want to concentrate on relaxing the muscle. The tighter you are and the more you fight it, the more painful it will be.
So those are my most important tips. It may sound like a lot of work but trust me, if you stick with it and go slow, it is well worth it. Enjoy!
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