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writes:Im 23 with no life. When I say no life, I mean no life. While everyone my age is out enjoying their selves, doing things that young people do. I'm home, watching reruns, hating my life. Any suggestions on how to change this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): You have no life? Not so fast. I thought life was all about relationships before I met the one and only person you will ever need- Jesus Christ. He helps you through everything and can guide your life. He knows what's best for you.
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reader, FlyWoo-Man +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Don't worry you're not alone, I'm 22 and I feel the exact same way. Sometimes I want to buy an airplane ticket to Brazil or Colombia and stay there for awhile. But deep inside I would love to have a girlfriend to talk to, and go to movies,concerts or volunteer with at some convalescent home...or something random activity like that. Don't feel alone we all have our phases but we both have to come out of our comfort zone and talk to people.
I wish you Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): Hi matie, i'm the same age as you and i'm struggling with the same question. I've got lots of good friends keep hassling me to go out with them which I rarely do. The reason is because I'm very preoccupied with my study for the final semester that I enjoy very much. At times I question myself like you do for example why am I not doing what people at my age supposed to be doing. I guess it's just because there is a lot others enjoying a good deal of time getting trashed doesn't mean you would enjoy that too. Instead of eying on a "fun life" of these people, find out what makes you happy you first. I mean you never know if you could meet a beautiful girl to share her company with you while the both of you could also develop other interests for example traveling, go out drinking with other people etc If you are certain that an active social life could make you happy, then go and pursue it instead of sitting home feeling sorry for yourself. Be more friendly start conversations with people at the pub and so forth(that's a very usual gesture in my country). Remember chappie, happiness or freedom is not something we have but what we need to pursue. oh remember a positive attitude is a must! Expectations are exceptionally influential in life.If you keep thinking you're never be able to find your happiness you never will. Trust yourself, trust your ability to make a difference for your life. Life is too short to stay miserable. All of these people commenting here are motivating you to make a move for a change and we all know you can. In a very near future, you wouldn't wait to tell us about your new life! So change your attitude and act!All the best!
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reader, Trigger78  +, writes (20 September 2009):
I've been through the same thing! I met some great people who helped me realize I am as good as anyone else. That's what you need to believe! Go out and believe you are the best thing out there. Don'tworry about what others say and might be thinking.
You are special because you are you and nobody else can be you. If it doesnt work think about a "cognitive behavioural course" It helped me and it will help you.
You lack confidence, you just need to believe you are GREAT!! Believe it! Cos you are.
I wish you the best of luck. Remember, life is short, go out and do everything you want to!!
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reader, pinkgoblin15 +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Start trying new things that you have never tried before. Find your passion in something and work with it. Even trying something that nerds do like drawing anime. The internet is a great place to meet people. If your patient i'm positive you won't feel this way anymore. I felt this way before then BOOM out of no where my life changed a lot. I met this amazing guy on the internet. All my best friends live in different states because there just internet buddies but thats how I like it. Because I just like playing on the internet all day. ^_^ I agree with person that said change your job that would be a good idea to start over new =)
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reader, Candleman +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Are you good at anything? Art, sports, poetry etc. If there is anything then look for clubs or meetings of like minded people. You're more likely to enjoy things you are good at doing.
If you do not know anything that you are good at, then think about what you would like to try to do. Pottery, drawing, chess, poetry readings, book clubs etc.
Do an online search for clubs and organizations. Go to the local library and see what all is there.
Think of joining a non-profit organization to volunteer your time and meet new people. There are tons of these. You can be a big sister, there's the boys and girls club, etc.
If you're religious or curious about religion, then join a church or bible study.
Go to coffee houses and meet people.
Go to an online dating service and post an add and search. EHarmony and Match.com are very good. I met my wife through an online dating service.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): One thing you can do is join a club of an activity you enjoy doing. If not already, go job-hunting for something part-time.
If you're not the social-real-life person, the internet has plenty of space to find a group. Forums are a great way to start, or even starting a blog. Get a social network profile, maybe try online-dating a couple times to see if you enjoy it!
There's a bunch of things to do, as long as you're enjoying it, you do have a life! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): Hi, you can start some hobbies. I met a lot of interesting people this way.Sports or something that guys do.
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