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writes:I jumped into an unhappy marriage 4 years ago. Although I've been working at it, I've always felt like I never found "the one". For the last 18 months however, I've found myself falling for a married man with children. I've never spoken to him face-to-face but I know that he likes me. I'm always catching his eye, I'm constantly bumping into him, and he once told my friends that he wanted to introduce himself to me (but never did). Though I think/know he likes me he has never come up to me. For 9 months now, I've been trying to forget him but keep going round in circles. I avoid him like the plague, I avoid his friends, I try and avoid eye contact and I've even tried pretending that he's not there, but everytime I do this, he intentionally tries to bump into me, to take the same route to work as me and do anything just to catch my eye (as if to say sorry). As a result, I always think that he's going to say something...but he never does. Pls help.
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (13 November 2009):
keep avoiding him. it is ur unhappiness in ur own marriage that is more the cause of this then his presence. I would decide what you want to do about your own marriage first. and while he is married I would avoid him otherwise u may just end up hurt. you may bite off more than you can chew
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (13 November 2009):
ok im not saying this isnt really happening but maybe your looking for a bit of exitment and your exagarating this
"fling" you have?
forget about this guy your married and he's married - tough luck honey.
instead try forgetting about this man by spiceing your own marrage up go out for meals,have loads of kinky sex,try new positions..go for nice evening walks,talk loads.
your partener must be the one or you wouldnt have married the man..you must have felt something once upon a time..
poor man.
work at it,
practice makes perfect!!
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reader, Accountable +, writes (13 November 2009):
 I think the best way to move on from this is to recognise that you're reading into these occurences way too much.. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but eye contact doesnt mean he likes you, and definitely doesnt mean he wants to throw away a marriage for you. It sounds to me like you want him so badly you're interpreting random little things thats he does as signs that he wants you too.
Discard any ideas about being with this guy and take some time to focus on you - involve yourself with anything that doesnt involve him really! Go out with your friends, start a hobby or something youve always wanted to try, meet some new people.. Good luck, I hope you move on from this soon :) xx
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (13 November 2009):
keep avoiding him. it is ur unhappiness in ur own marriage that is more the cause of this then his presence. I would decide what you want to do about your own marriage first. and while he is married I would avoid him otherwise u may just end up hurt. you may bite off more than you can chew
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