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writes:Hey I'm around the age of 12-14. I don't have a computer of my own but I have looked at porn on my gma's computer. I am always scared that she will find out and that other people will find out. Also when I am home alone I masturbate and act like I am making out with someone. I need help. PLEASE
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reader, Bladejunkee +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Okay, so I'm 13, I'll bet that makes you think of me as a pervert, but just because I'm a guy, doesn't mean I don't get it. Exhibit A. ask your parents for a Mcafee Site advisor application, they may ask why, just tell them it's for your security, or user privacy. Apply it to a control user, make one if you need to, it should give you full access to any site you wish to veiw, f you're really involved, by a "hack pack" or download an application for that, when your Grandmother asks why there's a new user, tell her you wanted a user, if she asks why it's called control, tell her a reasonable joke, like that you want to rule the world, it should sound fake.
Exhibit B. while masturbating, don't try to think of somebody, just think, Me, as in yourself. you will be less frowned upon when you're found out, if you're lucky enough not to be, good for you. But you will be found out or at least talked to.
Exhibit C. If your grandma finds out, don't be ashamed, just tell her you're ready, and that it's possible to get pregnant at age 9 for a young woman like yourself, so this is better than the real thing, but when you're legal, use a condom, that's what I would do. but the level for sex age will go down due to economy, so you shaould have nothing to worry about. Good luck with your troubles.
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reader, yeahsureyoubetcha +, writes (20 March 2008):
 You don't need help. You need a lock on the door.
It is good for you. It help relieve stress, helps your immune system, burns calories, and improves your future sex life.
the bath room is your friend the door locks.
Take care girl, you are ahead of the curve.
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reader, Mumknowsbest  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Perfectly normal. I started fairly young about 9-10 I think, but more enjoyable once i reached puberty. But oh the guilt that teen years bring with it!! Can understand where you're coming from.I didn't have the benefit of internet or any porn so my thoughts were confined to my own weird fantasy's. *blush*
Thankfully most people nowadays recognise it is a normal and healthy practice, but if i were you i would make sure i always click 'delete browsing history' after using grans pc. Otherwise poor grandpa might get the blame!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Install a filter on your grandma's computer so you can't look up sites like that.
Making out with your pillow is normal-you are growing and naturally you are curious about intimacy.
If you want to stop masturbating, join a support group online such as 43things, or a church youth group.
I really don't believe in Mormonism, but they have some tips on how to quit masturbation. Do a search on how to quit.
Meanwhile, stop beating yourself up.
Maybe you could make goals and progress gradually-one day not masturbating, a week not masturbating, etc. and give yourself rewards for when you achieve those goals. You could also pray.
And you might not always feel as guilty about this as you do now, regardless of whether you quit for short periods of time or whether you are able to quit at all.
If you feel guilty, ask God to forgive you. God Loves you, and will forgive an ernest heart.
Maybe memorize scripture.
If you aren't into religion come up for physical reasons as to why you want to quit, such as it makes you tired/sleepy and prevents you from focusing on schoolwork as much as you could if you didn't masturbate.
Regardless of whether you masturbate or not, you are important as a person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): As everyone else has said, there is nothing wrong with you at all. You are at a crucial hormonal age and you are just getting to know your body and your blossoming sexuality. It is perfectly normal to masturbate and have sexual fantasies as long as you do not do it "all the time". I would, however, advis that you not look at porn on anyone else's computer as it will probably be found at some point. Erasing the history does not get rid of all evidence, only the easily found evidence. If someone looks hard enough they can find it. THe good news is that your grandma will probably not be looking for it and at this point has no reason to. Don't give her one. Just keep to the fantasizing for now and wait until you are of legal age if you want to look at porn.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (19 March 2008):
 You dont really need help
What you are doing is natural and theres nothing wrong with it.
Though be careful on your nans PC
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (19 March 2008):
 You are as normal as they come, sweetie. I'd be careful about looking at porn on your gma's 'puter though...use your imagination in the privacy of your bedroom/bathroom.
save yourself your gma/parents any embarrassment, okay?
you're fine...:-) Gena Bullock
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): There's nothing wrong with you honey :] don't worry, it's natural and normal for people to do, it's your own way of exploring your body and your imagination.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): You know we all experiment and try things out with our bodies and im not judging you, frankly i think your being honist which is a great thing. I will say thought, don't you want to save yourself for that someone special? Doing stuff like that is seen as common now-a-days. No one can tell you what to do, but think about it, you've now seen someone elses body and when you do eventually have sex, your going to be comparing everything to what you have seen or what you remember. Sex should be something that you learn with the one you love. Especially being female, that part of you is one thing that is sacried and should be treated like a treasure that only one person can have. One thing that does worry me is the fact that anyone can get hold of porn its just recks peoples experience on sex. Puraty is a powerful thing =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): First off. You're perfectly normal. So please don't think anything is wrong with you. Unless this is an excessive thing that interferes with your daily activities, I wouldn't worry about it. I do have to say tho, to stop looking at porn on someone elses computer. That stuff always has a way of resurfacing. It can be embarrassing for that person and embarrassing for you. WIth that said, I'm not sure if you actually do need help. If that was the case most people in the world need the same help.
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reader, superbunny +, writes (19 March 2008):
 There's nothing to worry about sweetie. Masturbation is a perfectly natural way of exploring your own body - most teenagers do it.As for the porn? There's usually a button or option to delete the history so no one can know where you've been. :]Best wishes. :] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): Why do u need help? this is totally normal, nothing wrong with it!
But maybe just stick to fantasy and not so much porn till you can have a computer of your own, cuz it would be embarrassing to get caught!!:-D dont worry, youre just getting used to your hormones!!
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