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writes:My ex boyfriend and I of almost 2 years had a seemingly great relationship. A few problems that would occur would mainly be because of me. I always pushed him away whenever he got too close. I was at times selfish. He's the most amazing boyfriend ever, but he was also too nice at times.Anyways, we went on a break. Then a few days later I find out that the reason we couldn't get back together was because he moved on. He is still in love with me, but he already has a new girlfriend. She had already thought she was in love with him while he and I were still together. I find that dumb.But now I don't know what to do.I keep hearing about "time" and all this other stuff. I don't get it. I love him so much, I don't see why we wouldn't get back together. But I can't keep hoping... Please give me advice on how to cope with this. I do love him so much, I want him to be happy. But how can _I_ be happy?
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Her feelings are no dumber than yours, honey. think about it...but remember, you are not doing yourself justice by hanging on to someone who says THEY STILL ARE IN LOVE with you when they were sneaking behind your back with another girl. He's not honest or true to your heart.
Let him go...another nice guy will come along and sweep you off your feel before prom!
Betcha! Gena Bullock
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Be patient. He's trying to do some soul searching and figure out what HE wants. He wants to explore. A word of advice, don't ever push someone away who shows obvious affection and concern. It's very painful to them, and damaging. If they can't be there for for you, and be of love and support, then why be with that person? Part of a relationship, is being there for your loved ones, giving them support, and being there for you in the best of times and rock bottom. Lots of girls complain and whine about wanting their boyfriends to be there for them, that their lacking in that department, and they're afraid all the boyfriend wants is sex and when you had some guy there who offered you a part of him that's personal, on a special intimate level, you can't play yo yo with them, and toy with their emotions and not accept the fact they're trying to offer you love and support. Since you're both sooo young, you have yet to experience more on life and its dealings, and so chances are, you will both go through many relationships in life, until you find the right one. If he comes back to you, you had better change the way you treat him and start accepting him and not take for granted the things he has to offer because look where you are now. The result? You took him for granted. So back off just a bit, be on a friend level basis for now and wait until he has made his mind on what he wants to do. You want to be happy? Well dear, you need to learn that there are men out there who will abuse you, who will not give you attention, support, love, affection so when you have a jewel in your hands, realize what you have. Other girls will see it, and covet what you have and you know this and if you abuse it, be prepared your man will stray elsewhere, so don't give others, and him, that chance. Give and recieve and feel blessed with what bounties in life you have been given. Nurture your relationship and see it grow and bloom into a healthy beautiful part of your life. You will never ever be disappointed dear, trust me. To be happy, you must start with yourself. Ask urself why you never accepted what he was trying to give you. Were you scared? Were you afraid of things turning bad? Did you doubt? Change your ideas. Make things happen for the better!
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