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writes:Hello.I know that quite a few people have this problem now, which is nice to know- as I'm not totally alone, but the thing is.. I'm in 'love' with my teacher from school.I'm turning 15, and my teacher's 3O. Yeah, big age gap.. I know. I met him in September 2OO8, and at first I didn't feel like this. I started to feel strongly towards him about half way through the school year, when I'd gotten to know him better.Truth is, he is the most wonderful person I have ever met. Whenever I have needed help, I know that I can go to him and he will be more than willing to help and support me. He always finds the time for me, even if he doesn't have it..He is nicer to me than anyone else is- even my family, and when I am talking to him, he has this really kind look in his eyes. No one has ever shown that amount of decency to me. I trust him completely.I speak to him on a regular basis in school, when I do speak to him- it seriously makes my day, but when I don't- it breaks my day. He has this glow about him, and I can't help but be drawn into it.He has the ability to make me SO happy, and SO confident. Whenever I am around him, I get butterflies in my stomach, and whenever he talks to me- I'm on top of the world!He is exactly the type of man that appeals to me; tall, handsome, charming, funny etc.But what really destroys me is.. I can't have him. and I KNOW that I can't. He is happily married, with a young child and another one on the way. And I don't push that. I'm not going to make a fool of myself, and delude myself into thinking he 'loves me back' because he doesn't. I understand that nothing will ever happen between us, but this feeling still won't go away! He is the most important person in the world to me, and although he doesn't feel the same way.. I truly love him.I have never told anyone how I feel about this man, except for you guys.. And I wouldn't say that I need 'help', I just need some advice and support, and if anyone else out there is in a similar situation to what I am, please reply to this:)Thanks so much.
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (2 April 2011):
@jenl excatly, some people cant move on and forget. cant get over there teacher crush i know i would do absoulty anything just to see him again, catch a glimpse of him or just hear his voice. i have tried all i can think off to move on but nothing works.
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reader, JenL  +, writes (1 April 2011):
 it is so not true when people say that you'll eventually get over it. at least in my case, i can't ~ when i don't see my professor , it just makes me sad. but when i can bump into him for even just 1 second, it makes my day :)
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (25 March 2011):
i am still feeling the same way as you are and no matter what i do i cannot get over this man (my old teacher). he is livin in a different part of country and is married so i know and always have known that nothin can happen but it doesnt stop the feelings i have never spoke of my feelings in all the years i have felt like this message me if you wanna chat
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (25 March 2011):
i am still feeling the same way as you are and no matter what i do i cannot get over this man (my old teacher). he is livin in a different part of country and is married so i know and always have known that nothin can happen but it doesnt stop the feelings i have never spoke of my feelings in all the years i have felt like this message me if you wanna chat
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for answering, it's nice to know some people care.
i guess everything happens for a reason, and i'll learn from this bizarre experience.
it's harder than you might think to just 'forget' about this teacher, although this whole situation I'm in is pretty stupid.
I just wish it was as easy as people make it out to be..
but thanks again guys, you've been great support.
aliceinunderland, i'll message you some time:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Okay, you may think that you're 'in love' with him, but trust me, you're not, and I'm saying that from experience. For the last 3 and a half years, I thought I was 'in love' with my maths teacher, turns out I wasn't, he knew about it, he made fun of me, and I'd convinced myself he liked me back, but in the end, I realised he couldn't, didn't, and never would. How I got over it?I met this boy in my own year at school, he's amazing, and since I met him, I've completely lost all feelings for my teacher.So my advice, find a boy your own age to take your mind off of him, trust me, it works.I hope you get over him, teachers aren't worth bothering with, and I hope you'll find someone your own age, good luck x
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reader, Aliceinunderland +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Hey, you aren't alone :)I had (and still have) the same problem. I had a major crush on my old biology teacher, but as I got older I grew out of it, we stayed good "friends" and had good laughs in his lesson. When he left, we had a new teacher, and at first I thought he was okay. Now I think he's absolutely gorgeous, and lovely. He's funny, kind and flirty. I know nothing can happen, so I enjoy what time I have left with him before I leave. I often keep him company at lunch when he's on patrol. But I give him his space. That way I don't become attached, and he doesn't feel stalked!I think it's just hormones. It's not a crime, plenty of lads have the hots for teachers. I think you'll grow out of it. You won't lose the feelings, but as you get older you'll learn to just appreciate what they do for you. Like I said at the start, you aren't alone, and at 17 I'm still in the same boat! :)Feel free to message me if you have an account :)Best Wishes,Aliceinunderland :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Hey there,Its normal to have crushes on teachers at your age. I remember i had a massive crush on my bus driver (No he wasnt some 60 year old bald guy (haha) He was about 25 and i would turn down lifts home just so i could see him, it would make my day! Whilst all my friends were excited for holidays i was miserable because i wouldn't see the bus driver! I look back now and i laugh at myself. I know the feelings you have a very strong and it's fantastic that you know you can not have him and never will because you will make a fool of yourself if you try and do anything about this.I know it feels like he's the perfect man for you, but believe me, you will move on and you will meet a nice guy your age and youll think back and say to yourself "remember that silly time..."Get out there with your friends, have fun and enjoy the care free ages your at :)
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