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writes:While passing by my sister mid-conversation, I heard her say that if a girl brings up the fact that she HAD feelings for you (with no disclaimer) it's a fact that she still HAS feelings for you.This brings me to....well me. A friend from years ago have re-connected after a 3 year gap and we're awesome now. She's simply stopped being so secretive about herself and our relationship has been 10x better than it ever was even with the long gaps that permeate our time together.While we were out (for Chinese, mmm) we were discussing my friend who I have a thing for and I recalled how she venomously said "she might be a man". It may have been true, but the way she said it was disheartening, as if she wanted it that way.Anyway, her response was "well I did have a little crush on you". I said "I know, man". And she clarified that it wasn't as little a crush as she had let on. I already asked why she didn't act on it, especially seeing as I had put myself out there so many times in the past. She had no answer other than "I don't know...I was so weird!" I don't want to find out I'm being flirted with and seeming cold toward her, because wether we're together or not, she's proving to be an awesome friend. So 3 questions.1. Is it normal that I was invited to her house (for the first time ever) and watched some late night tv under (our own) covers?2. Why would it be that she's always afraid of disappointing me? I mean, if we can't hang out, it's no big deal personally. At least it was because you have more important things to do (school/work).3. She dates a guy that I happen to know by way of smoking pot and watching wrestling with yet ANOTHER mutual acquaintance and I wanna know if it would be in bad taste to do anything with the girl if given the chance.
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reader, Doobie +, writes (26 October 2011):
Doobie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I'm convinced that she's just being her and there's no ulterior motive on her part.
Hopefully we can continue with this awesome friendship we have.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 1. It really depends what sort of relationship you have with her i have a bestfriend and we sit under the same covers and watch movies and just talk almost everytime he comes round and there isn't anything wierd going on with us, its just were really close friends. But if you kind of end up cuddleing or having convosations about love or anyhting that would lean toward that way then maybe she does have some feelings for you.
2. Once again i am like that with my friend, i really hate dissapointing him especially if we have arranged something so i do think thats just a friend thing.
3. Well if they aren't offical and arent in a relationship then personally i don't think it is bad taste if something did happen between you two. However if your friend is like head over heals for her then take his feelings into concideration as if you were him and another guy got there before you i am sure you would be hurt especially if you happened to know them.
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