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writes: ... So I have a girlfriend she lives in Texas and I live in Illinois were both very young and were in an LDR , it's gonna be like that for at least 3 more years . Longer for her I should say since she's graduating next year as to we're I have two more years of hs. But anyway we've been argueing more and more lately and I just want to know how to make this work because I refuse to lose her. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Deep Sigh... one of the posts I make where the OP will grade me negatively....
LDRs suck.
they are HARD
they are HARD at MY AGE... I have the time and the money and the means to see my LDR partner every weeekend and LDR still sucks.
LDRS for teens are even harder. LDRs for teens who have NOT met is worse still.... I'm assuming you two met online and are trying to figure out how to make this work.
The things needed to make an LDR work:
trust
honesty
communication
regularly scheduled meetings (at least every few months if possible more often if you are able)
and a PLAN to end the distance.
LDRs cannot remain LDRs for a long time... it's not feasible.
So what are you arguing about? Other people..., lack of time? not being able to meet?
what you are fighting about will color my answer.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (26 October 2011):
 LDR's do not work for everyone. And unless you two work out how you can keep in contact regurally over phone or letter or whatever else then it won't work.
You have got to remember that the gap might prove to much for you, remember your both not gonna be able to kiss touch or see eachother for 2 years or even longer.
Do you think you can both handle that?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (26 October 2011):
 As i'm sure you know you have a lot against you, age and distance dont mix well as at least older people can travel to see each other.
But that said, it doesnt mean you cant beat the odds and make it work.
Have you two ever met?
Do your parents know about her, and if so are they ok with it?
If so is there any way they could arrange for the two of you to see each other?
If not, how do you talk, maybe you could talk to her and tell her how you feel and that you dont want to lose her and arrange to make more time to talk, how about on skype so you can see each other and talk?
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