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writes:December of last year was not my best month. The first of December, my mother passed away from breast cancer. The seventh of December, I got into a car accident that left me with a broken leg (currently in the cast) and $1600 in debt. The twentieth of December, I failed an exam that made me choose a different major, and also on that day, my boyfriend of six years decided to tell me that he had been cheating on me for three years and that he wanted to break up. And then on December 26th, my dad lost his job due to his company downsizing. He had been with the company since before I was born (twenty-five years ago).I know things could be a LOT worse, but seriously? I don't even know what to feel anymore. I don't even know what to ask. I just needed to let that out. It's been stewing in my brain for the last seven months and it kills me by now.
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reader, MANswers +, writes (29 June 2009):
dang sorry to hear about all that. Yeah it sucks. I had one of those perfect storms happen a while back. The ex dumped me Feb 13th to go out on Valentine's with another guy, I broke my ankle 4 days later, found out I had to put off grad school for a year the next day, then my Bipolar roommate went off his medication, and then the couple renting out the other portion of the house started having loud yelling matches and broke up. Very uncool. I owe my sanity entirely to my X Box and the GTA series. Seriously, sometimes it's just your turn and all you can really do in those situations is try to keep your head above water because someday (maybe not even for a couple of years) things will turn around, and you'll ne anle to appreciate it all the more.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 June 2009):
Ok, so I don't want to sound koo-koo. But I really do believe in this, the whole law of attraction thing. I'm very sorry to hear about your mother and your father losing his job, certain things can't be controlled. Death happens suddenly and things happen to other people that effect you. So when I'm feeling down in the dumps or have the blues, I read "The Secret." They also have a movie, I found the first 20 minutes of it on youtube. Honestly it can't hurt and I think it helps me think more positively and try to achieve my goals regardless of the shitty things happening in my life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I'm sorry to hear this. I guess the best things you can do right now are keep your head up and be with your family and friends. I'm sure your father is not having the best time either having just lost your mother and his job. You can be there for each other. Do you have a job? You can get that debt paid off in no time. The cast is gone so you're free of that.. Your boyfriend.. i'm sorry to hear that as well. I cannot imagine the pain that burdonded you with. But you must instead be grateful that he is out of your life; that he confessed his wrong doing and broke up with you so that you aren't unknowingly wasting away your life with him.
Things do get tough, for some people more than others sometimes. But part of what makes us who we are is how we handle that.
Now you can go forth and be someone who people will think "wow.. she's a really great person.. I wonder what her story is?"
And maybe they'll find out one day and maybe they won't. But either way, you can take pride in being the strongest you can possibly be. Try not to lose your personality. Try to remain postive and be genuine and kind to other people, because really, you never know what's going on in their lives as well.
You'll be ok.. I can tell from you're writing.. Just keep on keepin' on as they say. and you can vent here as much as you'd like.
~Sy.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Holy crap, that f---ing sucks!! I'm SO sorry.
I'm sure that you are in the thoughts/prayers of many people.
I think it would help if you had someone to talk to, perhaps a counselor, a pastor, you may even write me. I'm not sure how I could help, but I know how to listen to people, and I understand feelings and try not to judge. There's always someone worse off than you, but what you've been through is HORRIBLE and you have a right to grieve.
You can't run away from your problems, but sometimes you need to get away from them from a little while. Perhaps you need a little trip or vacation, or just a change of pace.
Perhaps music would help? It doesn't change things, but it has the power to uplift people.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (29 June 2009):
 That sounds terrible. The only thing I can say is to please continue to pray and you are in my prayers.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Oh my god, that sounds like the worst time ever! First and foremost, you really really need to get all of this out to someone, a proffesional would be the best, they then know what to say and what will help you. But if you feel more comfortable discussing it with a friend or family then do so. What youve been through sounds horrible! Yes it could be alot worse, how? You could be homeless or starving. But the fact is youre not and your pain is your pain and i feel for you, i really do. Losing a parent is bad enough but then all the rubbish that came after?? You really didnt need it.
Secondly, i'd advice attempting to get your life back on track. I know its difficult, ive not been in anywhere near as bad a situation, but i have been quite down at times and i know how easy it is to sit around dwelling. But you really musnt do that, trust me it doesnt help! You need to try focusing on the things you love and the people you love. Spend time hanging out, throw yourself into work and a hobby. Its important not to stir in your own shit, it will only make you more depressed.
My thoughts are with you and i am deeply sorry for your loss. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): By the way, that was a typo. My cast was taken off four months ago. My apoligies.
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