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writes:This is my dilemma. Though me and my boyfriend were dating a short time I can't quite figure out WHY he dumped me n I want to know how I can get him back.This is what happened.I live in miami dade county and he lives in broward.he use to come get me every other day so I could spend time wit him.the thread in his tire starting comin off so he couldn't come get me as often as he used 2. On Tuesday he suprised me because he said he couldn't come get me but he suprised me and came anywayz(I was sooo happy) he was supposed 2 come get me on Friday but he was tied up at work so I didn't really trip.he told me dat on Saturday he was gon come pick me up n take me out. Instead he ditched me to go to a bbq with his friends and dst really gurt me so I asked him the obvious question...did he have another girlfriend? Den I basically cussed him out for ditching me. He told me I was trippin 4 no reason bcuz the funny is he doesn't talk to any other girls (which he doesn't give me a reason 2 blieve he cheatin I just wanted 2 ask) he also told me he doesn't think we should b together and dat I'm gettin too attached 2 him.What confused me is da fact we only been dating 1 month,I met his mom,grandma,niece,nephew,brother,uncle and his friends. Wenever I did see him ill b around him all day from 10am till 11pm I really thought I was some1 he would keep around cuz me personally I wouldn't introduce any1 to my family nevertheless even let dem inside my house if I wasn't plannin to keep dem around.
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 If he has never given you any reason to think he may be cheating on you then why did you ask? You made him feel untrusted and made yourself look like a jealous girlfriend very early on in your relationship.
This guy clearly put a lot of effort into your relationship by coming to get you every time you planned to see eachother. Maybe he felt like he was the only one putting the effort in? These are a couple of reasons why he may have broken up with you that I can think of from the information you have given.
If you want him to take you back then maybe you need to cool it down sligtly and not "cuss him out" when he wants to spend time with his friends. Show him that you really do trust him and not ask silly questions about other girls when you know (because you said it yourself) that he wouldn't cheat on you. Maybe make some effort to go and see him too rather than him always coming to get you.
There may be much more to this than what you have told us so forgive me if you think I sound a bit harsh. But my answer is purely on the information you have given.
I hope this helps you, let us know how it goes :)
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 Honestly, you could speculate for hours on why you think he dumped you, and be all the more miserable for it. You'd have to ask him what has changed between you in the last few weeks, he's the only one able to give you a straight answer.If he declines to answer, I'd personally think he was playing you. Him saying that you're getting too attached to him says to me that he fears commitment and isn't ready to 'settle down' with any one particular person. For your own sanity I'd walk away, but it all depends on how much you want this to work out. Hope something positive comes out of this for you and I'd love to hear any followups! AK.
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