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writes:Ok so me and my ex-bf are still having sex!! We broke up in 2002 and we still have sex on the REGULAR I mean 3 or more times a week! Problem is me and him both are in relationship with other people now, but we both still love each other a lot and every time we try 2 break it off we never can stay away from each other!! I need help!! I just cannot stay away from him, he is the best I ever had and is very well endowed!! I need help plezz???
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reader, poeslek  +, writes (2 September 2010):
hi my wife have similar problem. i do allow her twice a year to be with her ex boyfriend who have a monster cock. we make sure that we record their sex sessions and watch it later. dont leave him but cut down on the time you spend together.. get more guys invloved
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Never trust a big dick and a smile...
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (23 July 2010):
Who (or what) is more important to you?
The guy you're in a legit relationship with or sex. Make the choice and cut ties with the other one.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Couple of questions.
1) what are you getting out of the relationship with the new boyfriend? Not sex, not intimacy (or you wouldn't have the heart to be with the ex) so is it money and security?
2) what is the ex getting out of his new relationship?
I have to side with the others. If the two of you love each other so much then why can't you make it work? Do you love the cheating and sneaking around and the thrill that goes with it?
One day one of the current partners will find out and they will be very hurt, I know I would be and you would be. A well endowed package isn't that great unless the guy knows what to do with you with his mind, lips and heart. I've been satisfied by plenty of regulars and have actually been dissatisfied with well endowed. That is a very immature reason to stay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Selfish, I feel sorry for your partners who don't know. You should really both just get together or call it off.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Dump your current BF. If you are having sex with someone else you need to set your BD "free" so he can go find himself a decent faithful woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): You're maintaining more contact than many married couples. This is why your other relationships do not measure up. You aren't even giving them a chance. If you really are so shallow that a big cock will keep you hanging on for 8 years and cheating on other people, then you need to just have casual sex with well hung guys and leave relationships out of the question. You cant do both. And by trying, you wind up where you are...cheating, detached from your lover, and confused. Ditch the boyfriend, fuck your brains out, move onto a new phase when you get it out of your system.
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (20 July 2010):
you are being cruel to your current partners and you shuold be ashamed of yourselves.
The relationship you are having with your ex wouldn't be wrong if you wasn't already with someone else. I am sure you would be distraught if you were in a real relationship and then found out your partner was still having a relationship with his ex!
either break it off with your ex or break it off with your boyfriend either way its not right what the two of you are doing to your partners and it is very selfish. sounds like the two of you deserve eachother.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (20 July 2010):
 You already know what you are doing is wrong. You are cheating. And you already know how to fix it, you either end it with your ex or you end it with your new partner. However, knowing all of this you still choose to be selfish.
My advice? Ditch the new guy. At this point you have it in your mind that nobody will ever "measure up" to your ex and any new partners will forever be compared to him. Ditch the new guy and marry your ex. Spare other people the cycle you and your ex will forever be trapped in.....
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reader, Blatanche  +, writes (20 July 2010):
If your ex-BF stills appeal to you so much, ask yourself if your current BF is more important or is HE more important. If your current BF is more important, than break up with your ex-bf! If your ex-bf stills stands in your heart, than break up with your current BF! Simple as pie...
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reader, natmarie +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I so understand where you are coming from.!! it must be very verh diffuclt!!Maybe you should both split up with your new partners and get back together? have you ever discussed that? why did you split? I have an ex who I would love to see for sex, as it was spectcular, but also know I need to respct my current partner. x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 July 2010):
You can stay away from him any time you like. Any time. But you're not. At all. Which means that you're now a cheat for no other reason than you like your ex because he's well endowed. Please, at least leave your boyfriend. If you want to be used by this guy, fine. If he wants to ruin another girl's life, that's his choice and he will lose out later. But you're going to hurt your boyfriend for nothing, and that's not good enough. At all. Right now, you're not ready for a relationship, and this boyfriend is not the one for you. You have little respect for him if you just go back to this ex for sex because he's so well endowed. He's clearly not the one. So be kind, and let him go. It will be better for you both. For two reasons.
1 - He wont' know that you're a cheat and you think so little of him.
2 - Your reputation won't be so damaged. Because if this comes out, which it will, no decent guy will look at you again.
End your relationship with your boyfriend, and let him find someone who loves him and respects him for who he is.
Then decide whether you just want to be some guy's bit on the side for the rest of your life.
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