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writes:Hello everyone, I need some help from anyone willing to give me advice. In the past I have made many bad decisions in life. My parents have never been a very good influence in my life at all, and still aren't, and I have not many friends, as I move around a lot. I do not trust my decisions any longer and cannot come to a conclusion of what to do with my life. I have no interests anymore, and no motivation. Am I just one of those f'ed up people who will never amount to anything? What is the meaning of life? I seem to never be able to do anything right anymore. Please help! Any advice will be greatly appreciated!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): well basically im going through the same thing, see like the person before me said, you need stablity, find some one to love, some thing to believe in, and stay there, find a home, and be there and break from the norm every once in a while, add some spice and stir it up! All we really need to do in this life is live by good morals dod what needs to be done, then have some fun. enjoy life while its here, ya know?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (12 September 2007):
I think you're just tired. You're paying for past mistakes and no one has been there to guide you. You move around so your life is fragmented and you never have time to finish something you may have started. Your subconscious is feeling like there's no point in trying.
What you need right now is stability. Find a place you think you can live with and stay. Gather your thoughts and get a job you can hold down. It will not be glamorous at first, but you'll be building a base. Once the foundation is a bit more solid, go out and expose yourself to things you've never seen/done before. When you find something you're interested in, then stick with it. Use your day job to fund the groundwork for your dream job.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 i think you would do swimmingly if you bought a really old cottage on a beach, that requires a lot of fixing up, and put all of your passion that you have about hating your life and thinking you are worthless, into fixing that place up. it will keep you and your mind occupied and will give u a feeling of self worth again. while also implying a double meaning that being with the progress you make on your cottage, the more progress you make on yourself. the worst thing you could possibly do right now is sulk and mope. no one ever said life was easy. but some people just start out on the wrong foot which i dont think is fair at all. why not go back to school or something? anything to make you feel YOU again.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I am sorry, it sounds like you have not had much support in your life. You are not the things that happened to you in the past, you do have control over what happens to you in the future. If you are unhappy with how things are going now, take another road and change where you are going. Join something new, try a new course or join a new gym. I am a bit worried that you sound a bit depressed. If you do have more symptoms, please check with your doctor. A lot of young people have a crisis in their mid-twenties. It can be a bit confusing having left home or Uni and being expected to "know" exactly where you are headed. Let me tell you, few people actually do KNOW exactly where they want to be at your age, and it's Okay to still be searching. Some of the more interesting people I know were still searching at 40! Cut yourself a bit of slack and be kind to yourself. Remember some of the things that really interested you and gave you pleasure growing up, and try them again. Volunteering puts you in the path of a lot of really warm-hearted people and you'd be amazed at how much you get in return. It can be very rewarding. Branch out and try a few new things, it will bring some balance back into your life.
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reader, superbunny  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 Aww, honey - seems you've lost your footing a bit. :]
Your job can play a big part in your life - people who work with nice people seem to be happier people themselves; forgive me if this sounds stupid but seeing as spend most of our time working it makes sense!
As for the meaning of life, wow! I wouldn't worry about that just yet, honey! Get out, enjoy yourself, relax a bit. You said your parents aren't the greatest rolemodels but isn't that inspiration enough to do something you love? So you don't end up like that? [Although I do not know what you mean by them being poor role models]
There's only so much I can say without knowing more details but I can promise you, you will do something great in your life - everyone is special in their own way, I swear to you.
Hope things work out for the best - message me if you want to talk. :] x
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (11 September 2007):
 Uff there is so much to say about the meaning of life.. to cut my long story short, the shortest i can i will say the meaning of life is what we want it to be... you have to discover what makes you happy, or you have to discover how it is to be happy, and then your road will be clearer. try meditation, it really helps you to get to know yourself, all facets of you and it helps to understand yourself better. it doesn't happen overnihgt, but it does happen, with discipline and perseverance. do your research :). Hope this helps xx
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