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writes:I just found out my husband of three years has been lying to me about everything possible, and the kicker, I just found out he never divorced his first wife. He got married in California the first time but we went to Las Vegas,Nevada and eloped.Is my marriage even legal or valid? Do I need to file for divorce or just move on?
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Hey there Meme,
I'm so sorry you are going through this. (hug)
In your case and probably a good thing for you, your marriage is more than likely not legal and you will be able to get out of it and move on without any headache. (Pain/hurt on the other hand is a different story, so sorry.) From what you are saying, "he's lying to you about everything" then you are better off without him, as I'm sure you know already. You deserve better!! All around!
You should definitely talk with someone dealing in legal to help you. I know that's not a big help in what you are asking, but that's where you will have to start.
Do you want me to find some information to help you out?
Does he know that you are aware of him being a bigamist?
Get back to us ASAP!!
Michelle
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (18 September 2008):
 You need to speak to an attourney right away!!! This is not a legal marriage, no. But you need to find out what your rights and options are. A good lawyer should be able to help you navigate this legal mess he has put you in. You need to protect your assets and identity. He may be in for some jail time as this is certainly illegal, both as bigamy and fraud.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Everything pashanoodle said was spot on. I'm not sure how YOU feel about all of this though...
The fact is that you could involve the law, because this is bigamy, and you have every right to do so. You could also request an annulment if you want to leave. An annulment would be beneficial as you wouldn't have to recognize this as a legal marriage and you would not have any legal ties to him in the future, which would be beneficial when establishing credit and loans in the future, UNLESS You have children together, in which case, you may not be candidates for an annulment.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Hi meme77, woah - finding that out must have been a total shock! Who does that? Does he know you have found out?
I am not well versed in the in's and out's of the law, but I suspect your marriage would not be seen as legal. My advice to you is to contact a solicitor, there are a few issues that you will need advice about Eg: your rights re your shared assets.
I think your husband may also face charges...he's basically a bigamist which is illegal in many countries.
Get ALL the information you need and look after you!
Good luck!
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