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writes:I found out thursday that I was 6weeks pregnant with his child. He really wants to be a dad so I had great pleasure in telling him on Saturday when I saw him on his own (finally!)The new problem is, is that I miss carried yesterday, and I'm so scared of telling him. I feel as if I have let him down,Please help, how can I approach him and tell him, before he catches on, as I kept making excuses of being busy last night so I couldnt see him.please, any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 You need to tell him. That's the whole thing around being partners, you'd both be raising the child together, so dealing with the pain of loosing the pregnancy needs to be something you both work through together.
As a man I'll tell you what would really tick me off. If my girlfriend lost the baby, I found out later and found out she knew the whole time. It's not your fault you lost the pregnancy, and with him being the father, he really needs to know the truth.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 September 2007):
You need to tell him. That's the whole thing around being partners, you'd both be raising the child together, so dealing with the pain of loosing the pregnancy needs to be something you both work through together.
As a man I'll tell you what would really tick me off. If my girlfriend lost the baby, I found out later and found out she knew the whole time. It's not your fault you lost the pregnancy, and with him being the father, he really needs to know the truth.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (6 September 2007):
 Well done hun, it's a very good thing you have done.
I'm sure you will have a child or children in the future, just give it some time, like you said and decide when the time is right.
I'm glad the situation made you feel closer. It would seem like you've got a really decent man, stand by him and he'll stand by you.
Take care and I wish you all the very best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEveryone, thank you for your advice, I told him tonight what had happened, and he was just happy that I was ok, he seems scared about us having sex agian for a while, but in true, I dont think I'm up for it either at the moment.We have become closer now to, and I hope that we will bring a child into the world together when the time is right, thank you so much everyone!You all made a big difference, and helped me so much,Thank you again
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (5 September 2007):
Firstly, I'm so so so sorry to hear of your loss. I agree with the others, plan what your going to say and when you're going to tell him and say it. He will be able to support you and I'm sure that he won't be angry at you. Yes, he will be upset by it. But I'm sure he, and you for that matter, would prefer it if you told him sooner rather than later.Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Be open honest and truthful and let him know that you had a miscarriage. Any bloke worth his weight would love and cherish you and not be angry at this sad loss. You need to let him know today, get it over and done with asap.
take care and keep in touch
xx
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (5 September 2007):
 Look, you did not physically cause yourself to miss carry the child. You did not cause this to happen and you cant not be blamed of feel you let him down. TELL HIM what has happened. Tell him before he starts buying things, telling everyone and etc. Sit him down, tell him what happened and even show him the paper work from the doctor's visit if you feel it will show him you are telling the truth. There is no easy way to break it to him because it is a death and a loss. TELL HIM and let him morn and you morn too. Whatever you do in this situation do it together.
*If you havent already MAKE SURE that you go to your OB/GYN doctor and get a d/c. (uterus cleaned out)
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