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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:hey im underage n i slept wid my bf about a week ago and im really worried i could b pregnant because ive been feeling sick in the mornings and ive been getting worried and im too scared to tell my bf or go to a chemist to get a test in case they dont let me buy it or judge me. the reeson im so worried is because i didnt use a condom for the whole time as it was too small and caused my bf discomfort but he didnt cum inside me but im still bit worried i just want my mind at restx if anyone can help please do xxxx thaankksxx
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reader, Heartbroken-xx  +, writes (4 March 2009):
Your not pregnant..it would take much longer then a weekto start feeling sick..next time stick to condomsor get yourself on the pill
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (3 March 2009):
 You are welcome, sweetheart. You are showing a positive sign of growing to be a responsible young adult.
Cat
xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou xxx
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (3 March 2009):
OK. It may be a bit too early for a pregnancy test. So may I suggest that you find out where the clinic is in your nearest area, and start talking about what you need to do next.
If you are indeed not pregnant, I hope you will learn from this. I am sure you know by now - by reading those articles in the links I gave you - that underage sex is not encouraged. For various reasons, physiologically as well as psychologically.
Even adults who have sex are advised to wear condoms, not only to avoid unwanted pregnancy but most importantly, to avoid life sexually transmitted diseases/infections (STD/STI). Of which, there is at least one that is life threatening, that I am sure that you know already: HIV/AIDS.
OK, now go and find the clinic and talk to the nice people there. Don't be discouraged if you had to wait in the waiting room for a while, or to wait onthe phone until someone is available to talk to you.
Cat
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 March 2009):
 You have to get over your fears, and get this sorted out, it's going to be much worse when your mum sees the bump!
DO NOT WAIT ACT NOW!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou xx its just as fair as my parents are concerned ive neva had a bfx let alone had sex, i dnt no if im pregnant but if i am i dno what i wuld do. :'(
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (3 March 2009):
You made the first brave move by admitting that you made a mistake. That takes a lot of courage.
The next step after taking a pregnancy test, is to tell your b/f, then your parents. You are their daughter, and even if they may scold you at first, they will also know that you too are scared and hurting. No parents like to see their children scared and hurting. Tell them you need them to be there for you, to help you.
Right now you have two options: abortion or keeping it (to be either raised by your family or by another loving family as their adopted baby)
A decision to have an abortion should be made as early as possible. The type of procedure used and some of the risks involved depend on how long you have been pregnant. The earlier a woman has an abortion, the safer it is. Abortion is a very personal decision.
With both adoption and abortion you may experience a mixture of feelings that may last for a long time. Counseling can help you come to terms with this decision. The effects of teen pregnancy can be difficult to cope with. The decision to raise the child, place the child for adoption, or have an abortion may be very hard for you to make. The sooner you seek advice and help, the better.
Whether you have already made your decision, or are still considering what to do about your teenage pregnancy and the child you are carrying, you may be feeling angry, depressed, guilty, ashamed, or hopeless. You may also feel that your innocence is gone and there is no way for your life to be made whole again. If you are experiencing any of these feelings, I want you to know that there is hope.
Do you have easy access to the internet? If you do, look up some postings in this site by typing keywords like teen pregnancy, underage pregnancy, 15 pregnant, and similar
key words.
You can also click on http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/. if you live in the UK. They also provide a 24/7 advice line and will keep anything you say in strict confidence if you request them to. You can also find relevant information on sites like these:
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/pregnancy/options.html
http://www.thepregnancyzone.com/teen-pregnancy/having-teen-pregnancy-options-to-deal-with-your-pregnancy/
The people at the "family planning clinic" will help and support you and give you the advice you need. Don't be frightened. They will be kind to you and non-judgmental.
The sooner you seek help at the nearest clinic or teen-advice center, the better. Your parents may be mad at you for now, but they will still love you and support you.
Take care, and be brave again.
Cat
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reader, Kepi +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Best to get the test , even if its just for your own peace of mind...... no-one will judge you for buying the test, after all you could be getting it for an older sister couldn't you?
So, get down to the chemist and do the test as quickly as you can, at least then you will know one way or the other and what you need to do.
As for unprotected sex............ no!!!!! Always use a condom, its better safe than sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhes bin checked out hes got nuffin hes all clear x
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 March 2009):
Go and get checked out he may have an STI, and the clinic will give you a pregnancy test as well. You really must get checked out as soon as possible don't leave it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno it werent his first tym but it was myn x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): hun, i'm not gunna lie to u...u very well could b pregnate, theres even more of a chance b/c u didnt use a condom.
but u may also b just imagining it...ppl do th@ alot. just try not to think about it...and u may find that u feel a bit better.
hpoe i helped
xoxo
--savannah 3
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 March 2009):
Go get a test, they won't judge you for that. They are more likely to judge you when you have to go in with a big bump, in a couple of months time.
I'm guessing unprotected sex and feeling the way you do, you probably ARE pregnant. Go get tested, was it his first time too? I would advise getting and STI test as well, you don't want chlamydia and a baby!
You have a lot of big decisions to make now and I really think you need to get a test by your doctor, then once you know the facts you have to tell your parents so they can help you. Yes they will be very angry and upset at first but once they realise the problems you are now facing I'm sure they'll help you what ever you decide to do.
In future USE CONDOMS or better still DON'T HAVE SEX!!
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reader, AllisonDro  +, writes (3 March 2009):
if it was only a week ago that you had sex, you wouldnt be having morning sickness already, if you are pregnant. that is in your head. you are most likely paranoid, especially if he didnt cum inside you. give it a few weeks and if you miss your period, then worry a bit more. but for now, relax.
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