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*iema.x
writes:okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how he wished he never rejected me kissing him so after more and more drinks we ended up back at my place and we had sex ,when i woke up today he was gone and i dont know what to do all i keep thinking about is his wife and his kids but hes so gorgeous that i almost want him to just turn around and say he'd leave it all for me ! I dont want to be a homewrecker but i think we could make it work, what should i do .I could move college so he wasnt my teacher anymore but If i tell my parents i want to move college their surely going to know somethings up right ?!
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady  +, writes (7 June 2009):
He won;t leave his wife. He has a family, he wont. I;m afraid; even if he was in love with you he wouldn't leave them nevermind if he is just having sex with you. Sounds to me like he is attracted to you, got wasted and had sex with you. It may be that he considers that a big mistake and does not want that to happen again. I doubt he is in love with you, will just be about sex, in which case i'd be careful he doesnt use you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): If he was the right guy (he wouldn't be married); I would just forgive yourself for what happened we are all human and go for somebody (who is hot like him) but also VERY AVAILABLE.... He cannot be the only HOT GUY at your school???? ") Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): i think you should let go..this might just be a fantasy thing like hes hot and hes your teacher..maybe you should move colleges anyway so you stop seeing him..because if he doesnt talk to u ever again seeing him will only hurt you more..now how can you think he will leave everything for you..i mean there are so many people involved loosing so much for this..are you willing to live your life knowing you took someone husband..and somone father..i mean is just a 1 to too many others who will suffer the consequences.. i think this is a DONT DO but it hurts situations
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): you know babe, this happened to my sister, she had a secret relationship with her english professor at uni. they were found out and he lost his job, his pregnant wife and his reputation.so much pain was caused by such a stupid mistake,if this teacher felt the same way why did he leave without even saying goodbye. personally i think he regrets it. if he really didnt want to be with his wife then he wouldnt... despite the kids.all i can say is spare all the drama/ tears/heartache thats sure to come and get out of this situation now. forget about him. find someone your own age thats single and not married with kids. walk away from the situation now before someone gets hurt, whether its you, him , his wife or his kids. someones goinmg to end up hurt. please leave it alone. good luck.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): You need to back down! You are potentially ruining everything fo this guy and for yourself in the future.. Laying your hands on a married man is low. If anyone found out, he could be fired, his wife could devorce him and his kids could be taken away from him. You're hurting a lot of people by being shallow. You can't decide that because a man is "gorgeous" that you cant try whatever you want.. you don't seem to have any respect for the people around you. Leave him alone and back out of this. And think ahout your future as well.. next time you get a boy friend who you really like and have a lot of respect for or love, he's most likely going to find out about this somehow. I don't know a single guy who would go into a serious ralationship, knowing that about a girl. I suggest you develop a stronger level of moral.
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 okay you need to wake up and smell the coffee.
You are in LALA land if you think he is going to leave his family for you.
Not that you aren't beautiful i'm sure, but you are after an unavailable man. You know that he is married, and he is your teacher. You want what you can't have!!!
You don't want to be a homewrecker, but what you did is
wrecking people's home. You need to think with your head and not with your head and emotions.
There are a million available men for you to choose.
Leave this guy alone!!!!
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (8 April 2009):
Big mistake. Not much you can do about it now. I can
promise you though, he won't leave his wife.
Have you wondred why she wasn't with him that night you "accidently" met him at the club. Sounds like he's a player and you are just one more conquest for him.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (8 April 2009):
 You don't sound your age, you sound like you are 14yrs old, don't mean to offend you.
The 1st time you came on to him and he rejected you, and then you meet in a club and I'm sure you were all over him again. The poor man had no choice but to sleep with you. Now you want him all to yourself, DOES HE WANT YOU? I don't think so. He just had sex with you when he was drunk, that's all. Don't waste your time trying to make more out of it. You should, however, be sorry for your actions. He's a married man with a family and you were and are too selfish to see that. You mention your parents - how would you feel if a young woman seduced your father and did that to your mother. And what if your parents got divorced over something like that.
I'm not being mean. I just want you to truly see what you did and the consequences.
He just had sex with you, that's it. Move on with your life and learn from this.
Good luck
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reader, xXxLisaxXx +, writes (8 April 2009):
This is a very delicate situation. He has done 2 serious things one to sleep with a student and two he has cheated on his wife and family. You said you don't want to be a home wrecker yet you want to be with him, you would be hurting alot of people and life would be difficult for both of you. I think you would need to see where he is at as well because if you woke up and he wasn't there then surely that means he feels he made a mistake and that his family do mean a lot to him. I know that must sound cruel but its the truth. You should find someone your own age and live your life. I'm only the same age as you and have been in a relationship with an older man. Eventually you will realise that you want very different things.
Like the previous answer says how do you know you can trust him? He has cheated on his wife for the first time or not we don't know how do you know he won't do this to you? If he was in a club on his own surely if he hadn;t come across you someone else would have come along, you may have been in the right place at the right time.
If I was you hun and you felt so strongly I would get some answers from him and find out the truth then make a decision. If you feel you can't do this then get out of this situation and move on with your life. Don't get tied to a guy so young. Live your life.
Good Luck xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): you had my sympathy the first time but not anymore.
you are a home wrecker , you knowingly and purposefully are trying to destroy this mans marriage. you keep thinking about his wife and kids, for what/ It is not like you are remorseful ,like you care what you have done. why worry about his poor wife when you want her husband. you think he is going to be yours. You are so wrong. You will only be his f**k buddy, nothing more, nothing less. And you deserve it, you are so low right now. You actually disgust me. Morals , what morals??? You don't possess any. I have no sympathy or even any kind word for you. Shameful behaviour by you and him. But why take my word for it, just look in your mirror for the real you. Like what you see?? but then you would, wouldn't you. Sick
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Alcohol does bad things to people. If you weren't both alcohol fuelled, this would not have happened. It is not loe. It is lust. If he really cared for you he would show it is a different way. Men do not see sex the way women do. He is going to have problems facing you and he may even risk losing his job if it comes out.
You may wish to change colleges or you may find that he does.
It has happened now, do not pester him, stay away from him in the college environment. remember he is married. Learn from this lesson. Be strong or men will always use you.
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reader, Niema.x +, writes (8 April 2009):
Niema.x is verified as being by the original poster of the question No he says he was young and stupid when he married his wife and he's only with her for the kids sake. I feel like we could make a go of things if only we were both daring enough to make it happen. My friend totally agrees with you she says as soon as the excitement goes off he'l move on to someone else but i really think this is genuine !
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2009):
 Why would you want a guy who isn't fully "yours" ? And more over how can you ever trust him? If he cheated on his wife with you, then how long do you think it will take him to "date" another new student?
You are naive.
And shame on him for doing what he did to his family.
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