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*cotfish
writes:i am in this situation, a girl i had the biggest crush ever on for 6 months i asked her out we when on a date couple days later when i asked her out again she said she didnt feel for me in that kind of way but she loved our friendship and really didnt want that to be lost, so as much as it hurt. i accepted it couple months later we started to get a lot closer and after a party were we started kissing in the days after we talked a lot and she asked if i wanted us to go out, i think that was the most amazing thing of my life i was so happy, after a week were i was flat out with work so didnt see her much but never off the txt's to each other i could tell she had somthing on her mind so told her to tell me what was on her mind and she decided that she didnt think we would work out as a couple lets just be friends:( i was crushed i was so much in love with her and i didnt argue i accepted it and agreed to it i didnt want to upset her :( we are still mates drifted apart and i had a girl since then that i loved but that releationship broke down and i relise i loved her but i was still in love a lot with the first girl, what happened between us was 2 years ago now and i still cant get her out of my head as in couple days ago i saw her at a bus stop so pulled car over to offer her a lift home and whilst waiting for her to get into car my heart near bust out of my chest :( i dont know what todo anymore, should i tell her how i feel and destroy our friendship or just love her from afar. I see both sides benifits but i dont know what i should do, do you guys have any ideas?
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reader, scotfish +, writes (15 December 2009):
scotfish is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice, its more the time since all this happened that i guess bugs me the most 2 years is quite a lot time to still feel in this kind of way guess im just a bit overly soft for a guy but i guess as the saying goes its better to of loved and lost then never to of loved at all. a few people do know about it including a mutual friend which makes it easier of sorts. I will more than likly end up getting ever so slightly drunk and telling her everything then, dutch courage got to love it :(
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reader, PRINCESS916  +, writes (15 December 2009):
oh this is a tuff situation. you dont want to push her away, but at the same time she did lead you on by kissing you and making it seem like it could work. i suggest telling her how you feel. tell her your fine with being strictly friends however your heart belongs to her in a romantic way still. if she does not want to be with you romanticly you may have to stay away from her for a while so you can get over her, before you are able to be just friends with her. hope this helps! good luck.
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