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41-50,
*loomer
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I just found out today that he's had a long distant relationship with another woman for the last year, so I wrote him an email to end our relationship. I found out by making a fake profile on a social networking website and requesting this girl that I had found pictures of in my boyfriend’s camera (he said she was a family friend). I wrote to her and told her everything. Since this girl lives in a different country I feel like I should give him another chance since I know they weren't seeing each other, even though he hasn't even called me to apologize or anything. Should I call this bastard to tell him off? To see what he has to say? Did I mess up by writing to this girl and telling her everything?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Move on and don't look back.
What does it matter if it was long distance ?
Maybe he just did not have the money to go and visit, or he could not take time off from work !
The cheating is already in the lies and deception, it does not matter if they were physically intimate or not !
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 March 2011):
He cheated. It doesn't matter that she's in another country. What if he went to her? What if she came to him? The guy lied to you for a year, and if he was in an LDR with her, he has been cheating on you. He hasn't even apologized for God's sake! He's not sorry at all.
If you accept this, he will do it again, and again. And you'll lose respect for yourself.
Dump him.
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reader, Danica Jane  +, writes (4 March 2011):
If you still love him, you should confront what he wanted to do now, If he choose to still be with you, then a second chance isn't bad but forget abt the past and don't hold it against him when having arguments, just observe his actions and see of he has changed for the better.
Fool me once, shame on you
fool me twice, shame on me
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reader, lovexlikewinter7 +, writes (4 March 2011):
Screw that.
Okay no, to be fair, i'd confront him about it. If he doesn't show remorse, then tell him off, cuz it's still cheating and emotionally painful. If he doesn't feel bad (which if it went on that long, he probably doesn't), tell that bastard off.
Honestly, if you can't see yourself doing something like that to him out of respect, you should question how much he respects you.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (4 March 2011):
He's a bastard, like you said. He has been hiding things, he lied, he used you. Move on. There are so many good men out there with enormous values. You did the right thing breaking up with him. You deserve better, give yourself time with friends and let go of him. Good luck!
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