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writes:Been going out with this gorgeous guy for the last couples of months and really like him. We spend hours in bed just cuddling, it's lovely. I recently found out that his ex girlfriend was a supermodel. I'm not exaggerating either - she actually was a paid supermodel on a catwalk and everything. I felt really confident about myself naked until I found out that, how do I get over the insecurities this has caused? I constantly worry that he is comparing me to her - though he's never said anything, so I know this is all in my head, but it's still getting to me. She was like 6ft and had long blonde hair. I'm very petite and although I'd consider myself attractive, certainly not a supermodel! Help!
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (21 March 2008):
 at the end of the DAy he is going out with you not her. there is a reason for this. because he wants you not her !
simple as =]
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reader, BigSis +, writes (21 March 2008):
 In his eyes, you're gorgeous, and i bet you have some genuine qualities about you. You must have, otherwise he wouldn't be dating you, would he?
Please read this article posted yesterday. By Wizard of Waz.
I'm in no doubt it will help you. It's so true.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/genetically-modified-woman-or-organic-female-which-do.html
BigSis xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): What have his other girlfriends been like do you know?
Would you say you are out of your league with this boyfriend?
Is he above your station?
If so, this relationship prob won't last. If he's not, then what are you worrying about? It is possible he was out of his league with the supermodel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): ive been in a similar situtation, my boyfriends ex may as well have been a model, she is absolutely stunning with an incredible body whilst i on the other hand are not but at the end of the day i kept thinking to myself "he broke up with her and he now wants me not her, ive got him she hasnt, he obviously prefers me" and it does help eventually
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Have you seen supermodels without their makeup on? Just take one look at them without their makeup and then lets talk again!
The only thing that they have going for them is the fact that makeup hides a thousand problems. You probably dont have that problem either, so I'd rather be myself than have to hide behind all the mascara etc that they have to plaster on themselves to make them look like that!
Dont be so hard on yourself. He probably doesnt want the hassle of a supermodel girlfriend. He probably just wants someone who is "ordinary" and not high maintenance. Take it as a compliment and stop being so negative about the way you are. He obviously loves you for who you are, and not how good you look in a swimsuite. Accept that and feel flattered!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Just a little devils advocate here.... you say you have a totally gorgeous boyfriend? Imagine you and he split up and you date a perhaps not so typically gorgeous guy but who you really fall for in every way - heart, brain, physical the lot. If you knew your new guy was worrying himself sick that he was not as gorgeous as the previous man would you be upset? Would you think he was being paranoid? I think you would not want him to worry about it! Relationships can tell us a lot about ourselves and our preferences or comfort-zones and maybe your boyfriend found out the hard way that super-model looks (whatever they are) are not the basis for happiness.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Sweetheart you have got him now so don't compare yourself to a supermodel, they are the so called beautiful people who are so into themselves that they treat others with contempt and little else.
You have seen these programmes on TV where the supermodels are demanding all the time and they are here there and everywhere which is fine if you like that but what sort of life is that for a boyfriend or girlfriend of a supermodel, it isn't real life. It isn't sitting down on the sofa and cuddling up together for a cosy candlelight dinner or a glass of wine.
They are normally eating very little and having to be perfect every single day. That isn't life it is keeping up an image. Real women are not the women on the catwalk, they have curves and bumps but men love that, have you ever seen men on a building site whistling to supermodels or the real women whose bits wobble as they walk down the street eh!!
Enjoy the cuddles and make the most out of this relationship as if you continue with de-valuing yourself then you will end up pushing him away and if you start to hide your wonderful naked body he will wonder why. Be proud and enjoy yourself.
We get only a few chances of happiness in our lives and we are only here once so enjoy yourself and switch off the insecurities in your head. Buy some sexy underwear and enjoy it together eh!! lol
Take care and wish you all the very best.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): I know some will not like my generality here, but, a female body is a female body, which brings pleasure to the male eye. What counts, is the female brain and what she does with it. If she is a ding-a-ling who expects shes entitled, or a compassionate, loving individual, in the heat of pation, the ding-a-ling will do, but long term commitment will be the loving companion.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 I've known a few professional models, they've generally been way too thin (and either bulemic or anorexic), rather dumb and boring, self-obsessed, and hard work to be around. I imagine your boyfriend is very happy to be with a 'normal' girl after his former girlfriend. Models may look good in magazines (after being heavily retouched), but in real life they tend to make very bad girlfriends.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, you don't have to be this statuesque blonde with long legs and pert breasts. I am a 40 year old 5 ft 4 curvy 10 stone brunette with stretch marks after having 2 kids and I still get admiring looks from guys, plus my younger handsome boyfriend who is 34 adores my body very much and does not worry about my imperfections.
So what I am trying to say is, your man is with you now and not with this Claudia Schiffer lookalike. Maybe the reason he is no longer with her is because she was very high maintenance and felt he some how had to keep up with her fantasy world full of hangers on and fake people who are too into themselves.
Now he is in the real world, with a lovely young lady that he adores and I bet my bottom dollar he would never change it in a million years. So stop worrying and enjoy every moment you have with this guy. Dusky xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Beauty is only skin deep. She may have been super good looking, but she was obviously a bitch to live with or she wouldn't be an ex!
You only have to read about the antics of some of these women who think the sun shines out of their own arses to realise that there are a lot of other people who are more fun to be with. You'd be one of them - and you don't need any help.
He's with you now, and I'd guess he's happy with that, but he has only bad memories of the ex. so relax and enjoy your cuddles - he obviously does!
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