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writes:I'm terrible at this dating thing. So I gave this guy my number and we spent all last night talking, before I so nicely fell asleep on him (i felt really bad after that.)So this is my stupid question..Do I text him first or wait till he get's in touch with me?
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reader, Tyedyedturtle +, writes (18 December 2011):
 Send a quick message apologizing for falling asleep, like others have said. Be sure to affirm that you had a great conversation and he wasn't the reason you fell asleep! Give interest in speaking again!
Don't be embarrassed. I actually did once before too! :-)
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 December 2011):
Hi there. It sounds like it was a first phone call from him, wasn't it?
Just out of politeness, perhaps you could send him a short text to apologise and be honest about it. DON'T make up any other excuses - say that you were starting to get really tired and couldn't keep your eyes open for any longer. However, keep it as short - but friendly and respectful - as possible.
Otherwise, he might be wondering what happened - and especially if you enjoyed his company.
And just to be absolutely sure before you send him the text, read it carefully so as he can't misunderstand it and take it the wrong way. Text messages because of abbreviations, can often be taken out of context. So you don't want that.
If you get no response straight away, just leave it at that. Don't bombard him with more texts, because that will virtually guarantee that he WON'T call you, as he'll think you are stalking him!
For instance, don't keep on apologising to him - it's not necessary. Once is enough.
If he doesn't answer you straight away or call you, it doesn't mean he won't call you ever again, he could just be busy.
Then be patient, because you have done all that you can to explain what happened. You can do no more.
The main thing here is, you don't want him to feel he was boring you. That wasn't the reason. You just don't want him to feel offended by it.
Would you like to hear from him again? It seems like you do.
If you like him and enjoyed the conversation the other night, well all the more reason to send the short text message to him apologising and explaining it.
Then wait and see what happens. Give it up to a week for some kind of response.
And if nothing after 2 weeks to even a month, then it's time to move on.
Whatever you do though, DO NOT go and send him another text message, if you hear nothing from him.
Any contact is then up to him.
Keeping in mind also, what time of year it is now, with one week to go till the festive season, which makes it incredibly busy for everyone. So this could possibly delay things somewhat and if not before Christmas, it might not be until the New Year that you hear from him, so all is not lost.
Don't give up on it altogether. You're going to be pretty busy yourself as well, anyway.
Good luck.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 December 2011):
Yeah, text him and apologize for falling asleep. If someone (guy, girl, or whatever) fell asleep on the phone while I was talking to them, I wouldn't go out of my way to call them back.
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (17 December 2011):
Haha its not a dumb question, what I usually do when this happens is text him an say "sorry I accidentally fell asleep." And that's it :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (17 December 2011):
 I'd text him, if you fell asleep on the conversation! He may be waiting for you to contact him, he might think you find him boring or aren't interested. So, I'd ease his mind by contacting him and letting him know that falling asleep was an accident!! Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): Just apologize for falling asleep and thank you for the great chat. Then PATIENCE!
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