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writes: Recently, I've started feeling depressed quite a lot. Just a few nights ago, I couldn't stop crying, and I didn't see the point in my life.I'm in a relationship with a really great guy, but when we argue, or something comes between us, then I just start crying again and nobody pays attention, or notices anything is wrong.Nobody asks if I'm okay, and if they did, I guess I would just say I'm fine anyway because I can't explain this to anyone without them thinking I'm a mental patient about to kill themselves.How can I cheer myself up? I just need something.. someone.. to give me hope. I feel so alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): Sweetie I feel the same way. It has to be a reason were feeling this way...family life growing up...something missing now...something is not quite on track. And I know when your depressed its hard to have friends but try to talk to someone. U really need that outlet to talk to.And if not then maybe what they are saying IS right ..write something down...hope u feel better..God bless you.
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reader, anonymous2192  +, writes (24 April 2009):
i thought i was the only one that felt that way. I'm also in a relationship with a great guy but lately ive been feeling very depressed and crying myself to sleep. and especially after we've had a fight. whenever we do i feel like he doesnt care about me at all and i get into the worst moods. but always when looking back on it i don't really have any legitimate reason to think cry myself to sleep every night. im also in the same boat with the "no one cares". people dont seem to notice that im not happy and that theres anything wrong with our relationship yet there is something wrong. yet i know if they ask then i wouldnt be able or want to talk about it and i would just respond with an im fine.
what i did do about it though is go to a physcologist who gave me anti depressants and its better but i still feel like he doesnt care anymore.. so i guess ill have to deal with that somehow sooner or later :((
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): I know that it is a condescending thing to say, but I have felt this way for a very long time I'm twenty one and still feel this way.I have spoken to friends, and in fact only just stopped myself from loosing friends after I got diagnosed with depression (pills don't work) Making a list from one to ten, of the things that upset me most and having a trusted friend look over and telling me their true thoughts helped so much!My problem is that I'm so over sensitive it is unbelievable, but equally being a young woman and having emotions all over the place does not help.I'm so not preaching, but my help were my closest friends, tell them exactly how you feel, and they will help, especially being cruel to be kind. My younger sister has experienced everything before me, but I spent my time at university, so is my understanding that although things seem to be moving in her path quicker, I'll overtake her eventually.As to the question of being loved, which I do softly presume into answering, once you love yourself, and stop searching it will happen. I can solomnly say I am in your situation at the moment, however I do truly believe this. The most ordinary are the ones to have extraordinary adventures.Never let yourself think that you are not allowed to feel the way you feel- this is what makes you, you and you ARE allowed to feel this way.Friends rather than drugs, as in close friends will be your path to salvation, you are young my darling, you are soo allowed to feel this way. When you think things are bad, you will find your way out of them, because you are a strong survivor:)
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reader, Mahogany69  +, writes (5 December 2008):
Hi, I hope you're feeling better now. I'm afraid I don't have a magical solution 4u but I do know exactly how u feel-almost invisible & unable to truly connect with anyone! Talking to someone u know means they judge u, even if they don't mean to. I don't know u but I've known more pain & suffering than I should've known in several lifetimes & as u know that makes u so aware & empathetic. Feel free to chat with me, all I ask is the same from u... Someone to connect with & share my feelings with occasionally. You don't have to be alone.
Take care. X
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (11 January 2008):
 hey girlie.
Im SO very sorry to hear that you are feeling so down right now. I know that life can be a bitch sometimes.
And I was in your same position a month ago. But I went on the pill, and I really think that is helping.
Maybe you could try that, or consult your doctor of GYN about getting on an anti-depressant.
Life isnt easy a lot of the time. It sometimes feels like it isnt worth it and like you serve no purpose in it. But that isnt true at all. Im sure you have so many people who LOVE and CARE so much about you.
Just talk to someone, give it time, and life will get better. I promise. :]
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reader, naturesb +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Hi There! Well when I saw the 16 - 17 y.o. part I immediately think of the hormones swirling around inside of you and maybe giving you the ups and downs which is what your body is going through. Hormones can really affect your emotions...alot. I am very concerned about you and believe you could do with some support. Maybe you can talk to your family about the way you are feeling, in a mort direct way,... its hard for me to say though because I don't know your family life. Another option is maybe you can talk with your guidence councelor and get connected with counseling. ----I know you are on this website for support but I don't want you to miss out on other options that could also help you. Please hang in there. There is so much in your life for you to enjoy! naturesb
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reader, Serinity +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Life is not always easy and that is a major reason why it is so precious. Many of life's best rewards are possible only because you must work your way throught difficult challenges to get to them. If everything in life were easy, there would be no opportunity for real fulfillment. If the only things you experienced were pleasure and comfort, it would be impossible for you to fully appreciate them. When the next challenge comes your way, when the next obstacle blocks your progress, find it in yourself to be thankful. For the difficulties provide you with truly magnificent opportunities to create value, to find meaning and fulfillment in living. The challenges enable you to give of yourself and to make a real difference. And that's something you desire at the deepest level. Life is not always easy. And because of that, you have the opportunity to make it truly great. God bless you sweetheart.
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reader, Crisy +, writes (10 January 2008):
 I know what you mean, Im in sort of the same position, only mines to do with family. All I do is give myself something to look forward to, and if I have an argument I cry on my friends shoulder and then well have a laugh. Talk to a frtiend have a good old cry then organise a girls night out. Dont worry huni, itll get better x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Awww....I'm sure there are people who feel concerned for you - like your bf for one. Theres a reason that he's your bf and that because he loves and cares about you - don't forget that even if you fight a little.
And there's us on this site...we feel concerned. We don't want anyone to feel like this...but you'll get over it. Perhaps try to find a hobby or something that you really enjoy doing to start adding well 'a point' (as you put it) to your life again. Think about the positive things in life.
Of course there'll be times when you have to be sad - but there'll be plenty more times when you can be happy! =]
Try smiling - a proper smile =] And if you smile at someone and they smile back that might make you feel better! It works with me!! x x x
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reader, Addison Grace +, writes (10 January 2008):
Hey. I too have struggled with depression. It gets really hard when I fight with my bf too. No one new about it for the longest time until I finaly broke down and told one of my friends. She too encouraged me to write down how I felt. It really helped and everytime i got sad I wrote. And I told my bf about my depressoin and that really helped. He encouraged me to write and we fouhgt less and less. So tell someone, like a good friend, someone to encourage you and always know, your life is WAY to good to end it. *HUG* lol. If you need to talk send me a message. I love to talk to ppl and help them, becasue I know I had great ppl help me get threw my tough time and there are many ppl on here who would do the same for you. =-) Lots of love!!!
Addison
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (10 January 2008):
 *Cuddles* Huni im so sorry you feel like this and i know its terrible ive been battling depression on and off for a very long time and i know how hard it is sometimes you just need to talk and let it out but i find if i write how i feel down (just put pen to paper the words flow) it all seems to fade away but if you need to talk to other people let me know and i will give you the addy of a very good supportive forum.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (10 January 2008):
hi hun!
*virtual hug*
i know exactly what youre going through. ive been through it for two years. now im finally free.
please talk to me
ask me for my msn
lol
ellie
xxx
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