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writes:hi, i feel really abnormal i have really small boobs and I'm 16 my boyfriend says he likes them but when i see other girls on tv and things i always feel like he should be with a normal girl, am i abnormal help me i hate looking at myself i have even considered getting surgery help?
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 you dont need big breast. The main point is to feed your children. It wasnt made for sex. So toss that worry into the trash
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 All boobs are normal size boobs. Seriously. That's why there are SOOOoooo many different bra sizes! And they make them ALL!!!! Asian bras are built even differently to western sized bras. So many different shapes and sizes. I'm QUITE sure that your boyfriend is happy - No - GRATEFUL - for your breasts that probably look lovely on you and your body. He has said he likes them!!! The really important thing is that you are young and healthy and you have two of them. I would tackle you insecurities and self-doubts with a bit of introspection about this whole boob thing before I would go under the knife, especially at your young age. Don't forget the whole point of having them is to feed your babies, eventually, and implants can have problems. They can also interfere later in life with cancer detection in breast exams and mammograms. If you want to create a larger look, there are lots of tricks using bras and "chicken fillets" to create cleavage. If you eat a beef laden diet, the growth hormones that they inject cows with can also cause you to go up a cup size (but it's not a terribly healthy diet to stick to and this actually did happen to my sister-in-law).
I hope that you will be reassured by some positive feedback that your breast size is perfect for you. I have to say, a lot of over endowed women would love the chance to be able to change their breast size with a bra, or to not have shoulder pain, headaches and guys gawking. The opposite side of this isn't any more fun - and there's an old saying, be careful what you wish for. Why? Because you might not have realized the consequences of the thing that you actually are wishing for. Everything does have an up side and a down side. The true path to happiness is being happy and grateful for what you've got.
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reader, PhoenixFiresky  +, writes (2 April 2008):
If your boyfriend says he likes them, believe him. Men are astoundingly uncritical of women's bodies. Maybe because the "little head" they use for thinking about such things is just too small to hold more than one thought at a time...or too single-minded. In any case, the thinking of a straight man tends to go more along the lines of, "Oooohh...this is nice! Yeah, baby! Gimme more of THAT!" rather than, "You know, she could use to tone up a bit...get bigger boobs...and what's with her hair?" (Gay men, of course, are another story.)
Before you consider surgery, you should consider two things. First, you never really know what size you're going to develop until you've had one or two kids. Breasts grow a LOT during pregnancy, and don't always go back to their original size afterwards, especially for those who are smaller to start with. I went from a size B before pregnancy to a size DDD during, and then to a C afterwards.
Secondly, my mother has very small breasts - an A cup, and I can tell you that I'd rather have hers than mine. Why? Because shape matters as much as size, and, in spite of wearng a bra all the time, mine have drooped over the years until they're basically pointing straight down. I'm only just 40, and it's embarrassing. My mom's, on the other hand, are still perky and have reasonably good form even though she's in her 60s.
Of course, if you have surgery to enlarge them, they probably won't ever droop, because they'll basically be balloons and won't be able to. (Some models are going to look really silly when they're 60, I'm thinking!) But, on the other hand, most of the time, the surgery damages the nerves to the nipples, so you won't be able to feel anything when your guy is playing with your lovely new hooters. And sometimes, as they age they get hard as rocks - not to mention having to be redone every few years so they don't spring leaks. (Seriously, this stuff is true - I checked into it because of how mine look.)
Life is not fair. And there are pluses and minuses to everything, even to bigger breasts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): Awwww sweety, don't feel bad about yourself. Im 17 and my boobs aren't that big either I wear a size 36A. My boobs got bigger over the years especially after I got pregnant. I used to feel uncomfortable about my boos too cz one is bigger than the other. Its only noticeable when I don't have a bra on or anything, but other than that its no biggy. I was embarassed cz I thought I was the only 1 with this issue but I found out all girls have the same problem.but its not a problem its normal. All those girls u see on tv are jsut as insecure as u feel so don't feel bad, im sure you're beautiful. You just have to be confident. I also have a problem with hair.I have hair on my stomach and its gross cz I shaved it now its thick. It looks nasty but my boyfriend is like urs. You have a good thing babe. : )Xoxo
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reader, Jmo +, writes (1 April 2008):
 First of all, you're not abnormal. Secondly, you mentioned comparing yourself to other girls in the media (which is one of the meanest things a girl can do to herself). Anyways, there are a lot of actresses these days with small breasts, actresses that any guy would kill to get with. As far as your boyfriend, he obviously finds you attractive so I'll give his taste the benefit of the doubt and assume you are as well.
take care
-Jmo
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reader, BigSis +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Please look around you, as Kitycatlot says, girls and older women come in all shapes and sizes.
I've said on other threads each and every one of us are unique in our own way. Stop beating yourself up about it, or you'll end up having a complex for very long time.
You can't be that bad ~ otherwise you wouldn't be in a relationship right now. Big breast are nice but so are small!
I guarantee you, we've all gone through the stage of wanting something we can't have, like for eg. ~ if you had really curly hair....you wished your hair was dead straight and vise-versa {GHD's are available}, or if you were short...you wished you were taller and vise-versa {High heels are available - leg stretching would be impossible}.
You have small breasts...you wished you had larger, go out and buy some bras with the gel padding or get some of those 'chicken fillet' things, {they are much cheaper than surgery}.
I'm sure you are gorgeous, so stop wishing to be like someone you see on the telly, 'coz 9/10 they are not natural.
I'm like a broken record here ~ copy and paste this link ~ read it and take it in. Please.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/genetically-modified-woman-or-organic-female-which-do.html
Luv Big Sis xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): The trend is most definitely towards big knockers and you poor young girls are suffering pangs of inadequacy as a result! I am sure that this is in some great part to do with obesity which is rife and a huge problem in the western world. Take it from me babe, if your guy says he likes your boobies then believe him! Not every guy likes big tits, small ones can be very sexy indeed, trust me on this as one who worships at the altar of the tit. Yes babe, they're a great 'invention' so allow your guy to enjoy them and start to love yourself. Your great!
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reader, HElPFUl AsHlEy AsK mE QUESTi0NS +, writes (1 April 2008):
 SweetHeart,You are fine the way you are, some men like smaller breasts, I have heard some of them say, " They are just right, more than a mouthful is a waste" And as for surgery. BIG NONO!!, If by surgery you were referring to Breast Implants, NO NO NO..THey can cause more problems than before, they can even cause death beleive it or not.Iff your boyfriend says its fine, beleive him. And if he was lying, what i say is "Take it or leave it, my body is a temple and if you aint' comin' to pray, then what are you doin here??" lolhope i could helpAshley
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (1 April 2008):
 If he says he likes them, then he likes them. I know people over 40 with small breasts and they're all happily married. Having big breasts does not make you abnormal. There is no such thing as normal. Look at girls around you! They're all different shapes and sizes. I wouldn't get surgery. You may end up regretting it, and you end up with permanent scars. Be happy with who you are. Chances are you're perfect anyway.Besides, big breasts give you bad back problems when you're older. Proven fact.Wishing you the best.xx
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