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writes:I am single..I have been raised as a good daughter and a model of being a good and responsible person. I dress well and my talk and even my gestures are very firm and proper but suddenly, I my have learned that I am attracted to a female like me and now that I am 28 and surely know that I wanted a female friend to be my lover and she was showing that she likes and love me too but still I am afraid. I wanted to be straight as I can. Is this being bad? ....
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reader, Natures relic  +, writes (23 July 2011):
Sorry, I meant to say courage, not confidence, but same difference I suppose.
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reader, Natures relic +, writes (23 July 2011):
What's bad is not being true to yourself. Why try to be someone else when being yourself is hard enough?? If you have an urge and do not go with it you are stiffling and emotional force which can cause a number of other difficulties. If that's who you are then that's who you are. If you're just curious and confused then enjoy the ride and give yourself a pat on the back for having the confidence to take the chance to find out once and for all and respond to your natural desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): hey whatever your into sister at the end of the day thats who u are so don't hide it be happy.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (23 July 2011):
 There's nothing wrong with being a lesbian or anything other than straight. Don't try to fight your feelings or you will end up feeling worse. Give this girl a chance and you can determine whether or not you're bisexual or gay. But this isn't bad so don't feel that way.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Of course not. It doesnt matter weather your straight, bi, lesbian, transexual a swinger or whatever. You can be whatever sexual prefereance you want to be it doesnt mean your not a good person.
Be who you want to be and don't be ashamed of it. Fair enough there will always people around who may disagree with you wanting to be a lesbian but then again there will always be someone who will disagree with whatever you do its just socity these days really.
If your friend is into women then why not go out on a proper date with her or simply just start being abit more flirty with her and see what reaction you get.
Best of luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): Being a lesbian doesn't make you a bad person at all! I'm straight and have many friends who are gay/lesbian. I'd embrace this, and be proud to be who you are. Although having said that you don't have to act any differently to how you would normally - nobody needs stereotypes. Godd luck, and most of all, have fun :) x
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (23 July 2011):
 There is absolutely, positively nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Being a good daughter and being straight don't necessarily go hand in hand. Just because you're a lesbian doesn't make you a bad person.
Be with who you want to be with. Don't let anyone tell you it's wrong.
Good luck. Hope this helps.
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