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writes:I'm going on my first date, and I need to know which topics are important to talk about for future dates so I get a good idea of what sort of person he is.Things like future goals, etc. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 It's a first date. So don't bombard with many questions. It's not an inquisition. So try to keep it light and friendly.Flirt with your eyes.Listen to him as the most important guy in the room and don't interrupt. Listen more than you talk.Ask OPEN questions, that require an answer that will tell you more about the personOpen questions start with:WhatWhenHowWhyOpen question example:'what was/were the deciding factor/s that motivated you to ask me out on a first date?''why did you choose to (do/start/go/attend) - you choose the ending for this question. Try not to ask CLOSED questions that will kill off conversation.Closed Questions only require a Yes or a No answerA closed question gives you no where to go after you have the answer.A closed question would be: 'do you have a job?' useless with a yes or a no response, and doubly hurtful to an unemployed person, if he is between jobs as many people are.And if you can avoid topics that might polarise or kill off the conversation, or embarass, so please try to avoid them. The same goes for questions that might result in a 'tell you nothing' clique response.So that rules out questions on politics, money, explicit sex and religion. All those issues usually result in strong personal positions that can railroad getting to know the person better. Time for such things are once you know the person better. Good luck with this lovely forthcoming first date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): Ok look, the most important thing for you to do is just be yourself and talk about what ever comes across. Coming to dinner with a topic in mind will just seem strange to him. If youre looking for a conversation starter, start with talking about general news, than grab that news discussion and relate it to one of you! Hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): fun stuff like tattoos you were going to get and funny things you saw on t.v like adds etc be light hearted the last thing you want too do it scare them off with baggage and eat a burger one thier amazed that we eat and to that its a burger or share and ice sundae and fight over who gets the last bit or go to the zoo and laugh at the animal or to a haunted place and be all scared then you will have a laugh there
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reader, Celest  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Have a nice time I should say... the first impression that you re getting on the first date is almost magic.. I advice you to not lose that sense because you were so focused on the right topics... you should not ask so many questions unless he is start asking first. Try to "read" the guy instead... not only from the things that he is saying but how is he behaving "between the lines"... Is he interrupting you when you re talking or he is giving all of his attention to you? Is he romantic or cool or both. Try to notice simple things and let him be the "boss" for a while. Dont get me wrong, I dont mean that you have to do whetever he likes... I mean that it is his task to make you to open your self to him, so let him try!! If you are not feeling try again, then you dont care about the goals that he would like to achieve but if you are really enjoy and you find that guy interesting you would definitely have some other chances to make all the questions that you want... take it easy, have some fun and take good care of your self!!!My best wishes!!!
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 His just a list of a few qeustions that might give you a better idea of who he is and could get the convo flowing:. What is your perfect day out ?. Do you have any sports you enjoy ?. Whats your favrioute movie ?. What kinda music you into ?. When you were a kid what did you want to be when you were older ?. What do you like most in a women ?. Whats your favrioute meal ?. Do you have any future plans ?. If you could spend the rest of your life on one place in the world where would you choose ?. DO you like pets? . Do you like children ?. Whats your favrioute T.V show ?And there are loads of other qeustions and topics you can discuss like sports, Movies anything really. The qeustions might not be the typical qeustions you would ask on a date but i find they are perfect for jumpstarting a convorsation and you get to know alot about eachother in the long run. Hope this helps x
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