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*liceinunderland
writes:Hi...Lately I've felt tired all the time, and I feel really sensitive about my body. I feel fat. I feel as though the man I was seeing has lost interest in me because I'm not sexy anymore. He rarely texts me unless he wants a favour. And when we meet he's very reserved. I feel unwanted by him now. That makes me feel angry, but I feel fat. That's my problem. I exercise often, but I can't work out why I can't tone my stomach. I need help to make me feel sexy again, and catch that guy back. Please help.
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reader, Celest  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Being sexy it should not be the major thing in your life. It is not the best it is not the worst. But honey, if you want to look like a million than you have to feel like a million. Or else you will look cheap.. The key is. The way you feel about yourself and this can affect the way that you 're treated by others and your interaction with them. The truth is, if you don't love yourself, you may find that others may not have much love for you either. Doesn’t matter how you look, and I am sure that you ‘re looking pretty good, (you didn’t say that you are fat but you said that you ‘re feeling fat, that means that you know that you are not fat… it is clear like a sunshine), the gold rule of beauty and appeal is to have a good sense of yourself. Being yourself indeed… this is a little tricky for you because of your age. You ‘re definitely not there yet… so if you say something like, this is how I am, it might be an ego or wrong affirmation instead of an acceptance of yourself. So start simple, be certain and honest for the things that you know you are and you are good… keep all the positive aspects of yourself and try to work in all levels with yourself. Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Love yourself and if you lack attention, imagine that you have your guardian angel by your side constantly, and he/she can help you with anything, unconditionally and without judging you at all!!! He/she can help you from to find the proper dress to wear till to choose a friend, anything!!! Do all the things that you are enjoying and don’t care about the people that neglecting you like your boyfriend. Choose your friends wisely, you need positive people with high self esteem in your life and not the other way around. Have a good sense of yourself all time, because you are wearing this dress, or because of your skin, or because you ‘re just smiling and you ‘re making the world prettier. I can tell you, that when you will start feeling like this and you let him know that his behavior it is not acceptable anymore, because YOU DO deserve something better than that!! Then he will be really crazy about you, but then I am afraid that you will not care anymore about him. It is worth a try, isn’t it ???
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reader, ayeshaH +, writes (23 July 2011):
a guy who doesnt make you feel good about yourself isn't worth it. a man should make you feel important in his life and also make you feel good about yourself.
if you exercise regularly then i doubt you are fat.
maybe its because you feel fat that you have lost the confidence and he has noticed this?
but if he was a nice guy he would ressure you and like you no matter what.
you should definately discuss you feelings with him and sort out why he has become more reserved.
love who you are!!
xx.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 "Lately I've felt tired all the time, and I feel really sensitive about my body."have you had a medical work up? could you be depressed? if the boy you like and consider your boyfriend is dissing you and only calling for favors then he's not really providing you with emotional nourishment....You need to base how you feel about yourself on YOURSELF not how others treat you or feel about you.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (22 July 2011):
 You don't need someone who is unappreciative of you and doesn't make you feel better when you're down. Though, in contrast, he may have something going on in his life that is making him more reserved. Maybe look into that, but if he's just being reluctant and using you for favors let him go.
As for you being 'fat', don't think that way. I'm sure you look just fine. Don't let him make you think otherwise. If you want to lose weight for personal satisfaction and health go for it, but don't do it to try and gain the affection of someone else.
Hope this helps.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 July 2011):
 What kind of 'favour' is he asking for? As if it's sexual and you're only being contacted for that reason, then I'm sorry to say but you're a 'booty call'.
You should want to look good for yourself, no-one else! Do something that will make yourself feel good, new haircut, beauty treatment or something along those lines to pamper yourself and make yourself feel special.
As for the excercise, what are you doing exactly? Are you eating clean too? As no matter what you do, you can't out-train a bad diet and when it comes to weight loss and excercise, most of it is to do with your nutrition and not spending time in the gym which is a common mis-conception.
Hope this helps, good luck x
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