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writes:I had been going out with a lad for a few months when I found out he had been cheating on me. We split up for 6 months and then he asked me to go back out with him and that he was sorry for what he had done.I have now been going out with the same lad for 2 years where I did trust him but for the past few months he has been going out with his friends every Friday and Saturday night.My suspicions grew so I went through his phone. I found text messages he had sent to a girl calling her gorgeous and asking where she was going tonight and she replied. I also saw photos of some girls naked and a picture of a guys' legs whilst the girl was doing rude things to him - this looks like my boyfriends legs. I confronted him and he denied everything saying the picture wasn't him and that the text message was sent by somebody else off his phone. I don't want to split up with him but I don't know what to do, should I believe him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): I would not believe him!
You are young and will have plenty of opportunities to meet nice guys, why spend your time with this one who is not trustworthy?
I would never stay with someone who not only is cheating on me, but also denies it and basically tells lies.
Get the upper hand in this relation, not let him trick you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Looks like all the signs of cheating. He has cheated on you before. I wouldnt have gave him the second chance. And the pix on his phone if you think they are his legs they probably are. I think you should dump him. Seriously I would!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Looks to me like he's back to his old tricks again. He's your guy and he has pictures of nude girls on his phone??? He's telling another girl she's gorgeous and he's had his pic taken in a compromising position with another girl doing rude things to him??? Come on.... you're really not that silly are you???
What kind of relationship is it that you have when you're partner can't take you out at the weekend but prefers to go out every weekend with his mates? He doesn't deserve you, he's using you (I bet you're sleeping with him). He'll be having a right laugh with his mates and oggling the girls at the same time. You're worth far more than that. Kick him to the kerb and keep your self respect before he does it to you first!
Eve
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reader, AskEve +, writes (7 August 2007):
Looks to me like he's back to his old tricks again. He's your guy and he has pictures of nude girls on his phone??? He's telling another girl she's gorgeous and he's had his pic taken in a compromising position with another girl doing rude things to him??? Come on.... you're really not that silly are you???
What kind of relationship is it that you have when you're partner can't take you out at the weekend but prefers to go out every weekend with his mates? He doesn't deserve you, he's using you (I bet you're sleeping with him). He'll be having a right laugh with his mates and oggling the girls at the same time. You're worth far more than that. Kick him to the kerb and keep your self respect before he does it to you first!
Eve
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (7 August 2007):
He's cheating -
Dump him.
The phone messages may be just flirting but by what you say the intentions are there to do a whole lot more even if he isn't doing them yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Classic signs of a cheater. Why would he keep photo's on his phone? I would say if they were downloaded ones of models etc then that would be plausable. Any man who had eyes only for you wouldn't even risk jeopardising a relationship if he genuinely cared for you. Next he's going to accuse you of being paranoid and jealous because you've been snooping on his phone. Dump him, because he will only destroy your self esteem. Find yourself a real man who wants to take you out,make you feel special and treat you at the weekend.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (7 August 2007):
 hmm this guy has cheated on you before. he seems to think he can get away with cheating on you when ever he wants now as you took him back.Its disrespecful enough that hes got texts on his phone to girls calling them gorgeous. whether they are from him or not, I think its still discusting. And if you feel as though the guy in the picture is your boyfriend...go with your gut instinct.If you feel hes playing again with you then move on.Dont accept him back...let him carry on with his sick ways.If he cheated on you, I wouldnt expect you to trust him anymore and a relationship with no trust is nothing.Talk to him again hun and if he cant look you in the eye or tries to cause an arguement then move on. Hes not worth it.Personaly I dont think you should have given him the second chance.Goodluck hun
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Spidey senses are saying no!What are your instincts telling you?C xxxxxx
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