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writes:so, i met a great guy, or so I think, he tells me he loves me althought hasn't been that long, calls me constantly, emails, texts, talks about a future, the whole 9 yards. The problem is, last week I was with him and he got 2 messages from 2 other women. Although he told me who they are, I felt uneasy from that point on. He told me he met one of them on-line before we met and told me what site. Anyway, sneaky I know but i went onto that site after, see that he's active and I created a false account and contacted hime. He responded back, twice. Not an email but an auto response "would like to meet". How shoudl I take that? He's still looking? Just being polite and responding?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Hi there,
well, i dont think you should confront him at all. First what you did was wrong, but you wouldnt have done it if you completely trusted him, so something must have been inside you to seed the doubts.
Secondly, he is obviously a player, what on earth do you hope to achieve by confronting him? maybe save for getting things off your chest. But you now know he is a liar and deceitful, I doubt that is what you want.
Dump him.
Good luck
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reader, RitzaD. +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Well since ur not sure if he's being honest or what not, u need to confront him. Maybe he is keeping his options open, but doesn't want to risk losing u. He was honest to say who it was and how he met her.
The only way of really knowing is by communication. Don't let this get bigger than what it is, nor let too much time pass by. Its going to keep on bothering you and wreck things up if not already.
Hope things work out.
XoXo
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reader, fcukup  +, writes (11 August 2008):
if its an automated it could be that he is no longer an active user of that site, but it still does it and prolly just sends him an email saying "somone has responded to your profile" in the subject of his emails, and he could just be hitting delete so, if he doesent give a real response then i guarentee he is not cheating or looking for other people (at liest online). keep him happy, show him u care about him, and if he feels the same way it will be evident. u wont have to worry about other girls.
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 hunny i think that u might be being played, either that or he is keeping his options open. either way u need to ask yourelf this "do u really want to be with someone like this?"
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (11 August 2008):
 i think you should confront him about it. tell him you got curious and went onto the site and saw that he was still active, and ask what is going on.
make it clear to him that he either needs to commit or he is losing you.
because i'm not too comfortable with his actions the way you described them, and you do deserve better!
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