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*rBrightside90
writes:Hello there,I'm currently in a relationship with this girl (for almost a year now.) She is really outgoing and a mostly a nice person. But she likes to go out a lot, with her 'girlfriends'. This bothers me somewhat, because all sorts of guys are hanging out with them, paying her drinks etc. She always has this stories about other guys doing this or that for her, and i feel insecure about this sometimes, and even mad.For example she once was in a car with a drunk male driver, this is very dangerous in my opinion, But she doesn't seem to share this concern with me. She cheated on me once before, so I always have a bad feeling in my guts when she's hanging around with her girlfriends and some other guys. What could I do about this (Talking about this with her is a big NO, she gets angry and verbally abusive.) thanks!
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reader, lionelhutz  +, writes (15 June 2009):
What everyone else said. If you can't even talk to her about it that's the biggest problem in my mind. You obviously seem to care for her a great deal. From what you wrote though, I don't know if those feelings are reciprocal.
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reader, MrBrightside90 +, writes (15 June 2009):
MrBrightside90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe awfull truth I guess. Though its very hard to break up with someone you love so much.
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reader, baby_tinney +, writes (14 June 2009):
 ok Ihave to agree on the whole Communication and trust being very big thing.I think if she cared about you as much as you seem to for her she would invite you along.I mean I can see her wanting to go out with the girls from time to time but all the time.It seems like she is looking for somthing else.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 If you can't even talk to her about the way you feel. My next best advice for you, would be to break it off all together.
Communication and trust are the two most important things, in a relationship, but you seem to have neither. This relationships seems like almost a lost cause.
I know it's hard to hear - I know how bad it hurts. But at the end of the day, it is what it is, and do you really want a girlfriend who verbally abuses you? who you can't trust? and doesn't even put your feelings into consideration when she's goes 'partying' with her 'girlfriends'
Your both young, so she probably does want her space. She doesn't want to be tied down, like an old married couple. She wants to go out and enjoy herself.
If you can't accept that.. then you know what you have to do.
Take care
xxx
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