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writes:im 19 and want a boyfriend im fed up of feeling alone. when i go out i do get boys coming up to me and do text them for a while but it never comes to a realionship and i always feel worse when this happens. what do i do wrong? or am i not girlfiend material?
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reader, poyps  +, writes (28 August 2010):
well at first i thought i wasnt a gf material. i never had a boyfriend in highschool and also because i didnt want to even if some guys asked me out. in college, i always felt alone and just ended up just having flings.
i have a lot of male friends but none of them seem to see me more as a friend. after college. i got my first real bf, but he left me after 3 months. then my male friends started asking me out, and i found out no one ever had the guts to ask me before because i wasnt approachable they said and coz they said i was too modest. soon after, i learned i was a marriage/wife material, not just a gf material ;) now im engaged and will be married soon. i did everything FIRST with my fiance.. the thing is, wait for the right time. love comes when u least expect it. and most guys come into our lives just to put us in bed, so be careful. :)
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reader, empop +, writes (19 April 2010):
Well, first of all, everyone goes through periods of having bad relationships particularly in their teens and early twenties. Try not to take it too personally - many of the guys you're dating probably aren't boyfriend material.
But, if you're looking for ways to impress someone, I think the best thing you can do is take an interest in them. Often, when going on a date, people keep thinking about themselves. "Do I look OK?", "Am I funny?", etc. The thing you have to realize, is that the other person is thinking exactly the same thing. Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on them. When you're talking, if something seems to interest them or they get excited about it, ask them more about it. Try to figure out what they like, and what makes them tick.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (18 April 2010):
 here's a test to see if ur gf materialhttp://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=7077410236968369190How to Get a Guy to Know You are Girlfriend MaterialMemberBy datingdoctor, eHow MemberArticle Rating: (16 Ratings) Add to Favorites If you're dating a guy and you want to take it to the next level, you need to show him that you are girlfriend material.Difficulty: ChallengingInstructionsThings You'll Need:TimePatienceStep1Be careful about kissing-and-telling. You don't want it to seem like you are bragging to your friends. You also don't want it to seem like he was just another conquest. Watch what you say and remember that your words will get back to him.Step2Be honest. Always be consistent with your stories, even when talking to other people. If you don't want to tell him something, don't lie about it. This may seem obvious, but don't be tempted to lie about your past to cover something up.Step3Stay busy and unavailable. Gradually and subtly increase the amount of time you reserve to spend time with him. If you are too "available" in the beginning, then you seem less desirable to him. Let him chase you.Step4Meet his friends. Be nice, but don't get too friendly too quickly. His friends may see you as a threat to their "guy-time". Gradually let his friends get to know you so they know you are different than his psycho ex.Step5Be responsible financially. Even if he has a great job and pays for a lot- you want to at least show him that you can take care of yourself. Show him that you don't NEED him to pay for everything, but you appreciate everything just the same.Step6Your history. Be honest about the past, but do not go into great detail about anything bad- just give him a brief explanation and show that it doesn't bother you anymore.Step7Romantic Locations. People honeymoon at Niagara falls for a reason- seeing something so spectacular makes us feel good- and we tend to attribute those positive feelings to the people we are with.Step8Cell phone. If your phone rings at odd hours of the night offer him a brief explanation. You don't want him to think you have other guys calling you all the time.Step9Flirt. Smile and maintain open body language. You need to give him some clues that you like him
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reader, Starmonster888 +, writes (18 April 2010):
 If guys approach you, the whole "am I attractive" thing is a non-issue. The problem could be anything from guys not liking your personality to guys thinking you're too good for them. The crap thing about relationship dry-spells is that you start to assume that there is this one anti-man-finding barricade hindering you from getting into a couple situation and you need someone to reassure and redirect you. I will be this person:
Different guys have different reasons for engaging OR not engaging in a relationship with a girl because different guys have different definitions of "girlfriend material". For example, I've once before stopped pursuing a girl based on her choice of music genre alone...yeah, I know, it's pretty petty right? But it's a key factor for anyone trying to fit my slightly weird quotas.
The point is, don't be disheartened, just keep the playfulness. Seek and you shall find. Look, and you shall see. Reap, and you shall sow. A penny saved is a penny earned...okay that one is irrelevant but you get the point.
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