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writes: hi i met this guy in a chat room about a year ago,we both felt something special,we kept talking everyday and we made a deal to meet first in person to decide where our relationship can go,so we met and it was cool and he became my internet boyfriend... cause he lives a little far from me we couldnt meet alot,at first i didnt find any problem with this "not seeing eachother" but with time it became unberable,i miss him so much but i am not seeing him at all, we met only 3-4 times since we met.i told him this is bothering me and we should meet more but every time he comes up with a stupid excuse.is this normal?how should i deal with this?
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 If you feel things are going stale, you arent moving forward and hes not making an effort to see you regularly, try telling him that. LDR`s by their nature, must be very difficult things to manage and require lots of online reassurance and dedication. And it must be very hard to have to manage on a few visits a year. The fact that he doesnt seem as eager as he should be to see more of you, would raise a red flag for me. Could you offer to go and see him? Maybe meet up half way? A frank talk, face to face, will help both of you to decide where the relationship is going.
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reader, Sakuchanz  +, writes (5 May 2010):
It's not normal to make up stupid excuses to not see you. Either he doesn't feel the same when hes with you in person or he's extremely shy. When you can't behind a computer screen he has to show you all of his personality. Online you only see what the person wants you to see.
Internet relationships hardly never work out, so don't take it too rough. But if he won't see you in person it won't ever work out.
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reader, kaiti30 +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Yeah this is normal, But if this is the first long distance relationship youve been in, its gonna take some time to get use to, i had this problem before,i just talked to him alot, and we sent alot of pictures, i DO NOT recommend doing this if this is ur first time... its hard, and u can lsoe your mind... and always remember internet isnt safe! hope i helped, atleast a little, good luck!
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