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writes:In my group of friends I am normally the one that sorts out the problems but I will be the first to admit that I am rubbish at solving my own. Mainly because I think it takes someone with a clear head and someone that doesn't know you personally just to help guide you through.Anyway my problem is pretty simple, I just don't have a clue what to do! Recently I became really good friends with this guy because we have a lot in common so it was easy to talk to him. However I have just found out that he really likes me and has for a while and now he wants to talk.The problem is I just don't know what to say and I have never been good at those kind of coversations. I am in two mindsets because of what my friends have told me. Some have said that because we do get along I should just go for it and go out with him while others say they could never imagine it. For me though I have never thought about him in that way. I am being told two very different things and I just can't stand it anymore. I don't know what to say to him or even about how I feel.If you were in my situation what would you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, dersita  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Well you should say "I fancy you. I know you like me and you know I like you. Lets grab a bite"
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (16 December 2010):
BlondeBabe x is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks that advice has actually helped alot. Quick question when I do talk to him what do you think I should say?
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (15 December 2010):
"For me though I have never thought about him in that way."There is your answer. Your friends are NOT you. They cannot see into your heart or your mind. You are the only one who can decide the type of person you like and how much chemistry you have. You just said you never thought about him as more than a friend.Chances are, if you haven't considered dating him, you aren't interested. If you're comfortable with it, I'd maybe suggest letting him take you on one date, just to see if you click. Who knows, maybe you'll see a new side to him you didn't before and if not, you can always just tell him you'd rather be friends. But whatever you decide, you need to do it on YOUR terms, not out of peer pressure.
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reader, sunandstars +, writes (15 December 2010):
I feel I can help you greatly with your problem out of personal experience. So I was best friends with this guy, I knew he liked me a lot, but I tried to ignore it because I just wanted to be friends. Anyway, we became closer and closer, and one day I was talking with my friend, and it just became apparent to me that I really liked him also, this was after about 6 months of friendship. Like you, some of my friends were saying we would be perfect and others were saying we wouldn't last because we were too good friends. I decided to ask him out, and he obviously said yes, I think it was a great relief to him because he'd been trying for so long, his persitence definitely paid off, and we've now been together over a year, and he's the most loving, perfect boyfriend I've ever had! You might not think you like him but if your friendship develops more you might find you do, just don't listen to your friends and do what you think's right.
Hope this helps,
sunandstars
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reader, dersita +, writes (15 December 2010):
YOU NEVER TOLD US IF YOU ACTUALLY FANCY HIM!
If you do like him more than just a friend then go out with him! Its your choice. Who cares what your friends say. If ya like him, JUST GO OUT WITH HIM. Give the dude a chance!
Xxo *smiles*
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reader, TheFallBackGurl +, writes (15 December 2010):
 well first off dont listen to what ur friends say its all up to u second why dont u try telling him what uve been told sit down and talk to him see if he really feels that way if he doesnt then everythings all good unless u want to start something with him if he does then maybe u can tell him that u havent really thought of him in that way but r either willing to give it a try or not like i usually say u know him better then any one else in here u know all the little details but i do hope this helps u in some way HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR U HUN
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