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writes:I want to go back out with him but I'm afraid that we are just going to keep breaking up. we've been going off and on for about 2 years and I've asked you several questions before and the answers really helped! Anyway should I just go back out with him even though we might break up again or should I tell him we need to move on? But the thing with moving on is that i don't want to, I love going out with him and I love him too, and I know for a fact that he loves me. I want to go out with him and he said that he wants to go out with me but damn we can go out for about one month and it'll be good but we'll just start arguing about stupid stuff and finally one of us will get mad enough and just say "It's over!" So again what should we do move on or go back out? Please Help!!!!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 You are both very young to be anything more than special friends just now, anything more only complicates things. Go out with him as a friend say twice a week max (any more will mean you will probably argue). That way too, you'll both look forward to seeing one another. On the other nights, get stuck into your studies and map out a wonderful future for you both when you are older.
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reader, maruechant  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 For two years, you’ve been on and off initiated by silly arguments. Still, congratulations! Why? Don’t you realize how this relationship is precious for the two of you? From your statements, you still like each other very much until now despite the countless incidents of confrontations and good-byes. It only depicts that not only one, not only you, but he as well is trying to save the relationship every now and then.
Girl, there is nothing wrong about breaking up once in a while or numerous times. And it is normal to have those talking, shouting and fighting over not-quite-sensible things and one reason why these happen is because there are no more personal topics (the basics) left to be shared because the relationship could have reached the “familiar status” wherein the other party knows very well the likes, dislikes, weakness etc. of the other. Piece of advice, I guess, since the breakups are caused by “stupid stuff” during a conversation, why not try to think of intellectual topics that would boost both energies up and perhaps lessen the commotion. Like, ponder on news of today’s headline instead of chatting once more about each other’s qualities and personal things which you and your boyfriend could have discussed unconsciously a long time ago, a probable cause of misunderstanding/s in the end.
Lastly, my suggestion is to continue the relationship (As long as there is no third party, a sample worthy reason for a breakup...but of course, that is a different story!) because you are still in LOVE with each other, the topmost basis not to give up.
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reader, tkay1032 +, writes (17 March 2007):
 I think you need to have a long heart to heart before you decide anything. Get everything out on the table and then you both decide what to do together. Good luck!!!
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