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writes: Why do I take it to my heart when something bad has happened to someone, like say a broken relationship due to sex or some other problem. I feel as if it is also going to happen to me some day and I have to think about it beforehand. So majority of my efforts are channelled at preventing something from happening, rather than making something positive to happen. I need some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 You need to start thinking more POSITIVE thoughts rather than negative ones. Our bodies are made up of molecules as is the universe. If you continue to think negatively then negative molecules will build up in your body and the negative molecules from the universe will be attracted to YOUR body like a magnet meaning MORE NEGATIVITY! It's called the Power of Attraction!
Watch "The Secret" and you'll see exactly what I mean. You can watch it immediately from your PC for $4.95 (£2.50) well worth watching!
http://thesecret.tv/home.html
Remember this: YOU have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
Eve
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 "Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained"
"It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"
There are lots of other sayings like this as well! Everything in life is a big learning curve, you are bound by human-nature to make mistakes and be disappointed from time-to-time, but the whole point is what we take away from the experience. Every experience enriches our lives, and learning how to handle life's disappointments builds strength, compassion and character. The really important thing is to be grateful for every gift that life presents you with. You are a unique soul and have many special gifts, so go and share them with the world!
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reader, DreamMaster  +, writes (17 March 2007):
 You are obviously a deep thinker – and I personally don’t see anything wrong with that as long as you channel your thoughts in a positive fashion.
If you look at a guy and think you may get hurt – then maybe your instinct is right,
But you have to be prepared sometimes to learn the hard way.
If you are in a relationship for 6 months and it ends and you are hurt, fine.
But do you think you would be better off alone for those 6 months?
Or better to have had the experience and the fun and learned from it?
I would go with having the experience myself.
You do have to take some risks – but make them calculated risks – not silly decisions.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (17 March 2007):
 You need to take the risk like the rest of us.
No matter how careful you are, life will still present challenges to you. That is a fact.
If you stop yourself from living, you will become a shadow, a wannabe and regret it the rest of your life. Do not think so much and put on more effort into action. What will be will be, have something to look forward to.
Concentrate of feeling ALIVE, yes you can get hurt sometimes but who knows, "if you seek you shall find" someone who will make it worthwhile.
Every serious relationship will no doubt have its up and downs but most of problems can be solved or improved.
It takes some working on it and two people who love each other very much.
Other times, it does not work out, the problem could be the wrong person being involved with, it does not mean that things will never work again.
Be strong and adventurous, make the most out of life whilst you can, you only get one life at a time and it is to short to worry about ifs and buts. Hope it helps.
If you need more specific advice email me.
Get out there and enjoy life
Good luck
Angel of Love
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