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writes:This question is sorta embarrassing. Ive started masturbating lately, but i dont feel anything by doing so... am i doing it right?? IS there something wrong with me?....On the other hand when my bf does it i do feel something..(no, we havent had sex yet,since its illegal).What could i be doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Mutual masturbation is a lot more pleasurable than doing it solo.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): it depends where you rub try rubin with lube"spit"
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): okay so everyone who has commented already is totally right, i myself am just a bit older than your profile says you are and i agree, with MY boyfriend it feels alot better than when i do it. now i may ask if you masturbated yourself before he helped you, becasue i know that once he helped me, i can't quite reach the spot, his fingers being alot longer than mine stretched it just a little and so i use a marker or a brush handle of some sorts that isn't too much longer than my fingers. one thing to remember is to never forget to clean these things before using them, it can get nasty if you don't. also i have used the vibrating toothbrush and/or razor, just remember to take the razors off and not to use the tooth brush.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 If you are doing it out of curiousity, then you really aren't 'ready' yourself for the experience. You could be too young and your friend shouldn't be touching you anyway.Give yourself time to mature and it will come naturally.I wish you young folks would not rush things--you have a lifetime of learning ahead of you! Go play badmitton or something!
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hiya,you can always start by doing the basic clitoral roll. This is when you take your finger and thumb and gently roll your clitoris in a circular motion. Get a mirror and watch while you're doing it. If you want, rub a little baby oil on it, this will help, as lubricating the area is important, you may not even need it, you might get moist naturally. So start slowly and increase the motion until you reach the right speed for your orgasm to occur. Another goodie is circling the clitoris. Use two fingers directly on the clitoris, and then rub in a circular motion around and around. You will eventually hit your sweet spot and bring yourself to orgasm quickly.
The double whammy is one of my favourites...while inserting one or even two fingers in the vagina, use your other hand to rub, your clitoris. This is one orgasm that might just send you over the edge!
This next masturbating technique you must try in the shower. I love this one...find a comfortable position whether laying or standing with one leg up on the side, hold the shower head and explore your vagina, using different streams of water and levels of pressure, wander around and try to find what spot works for you. Give it a go, and remember, have a mirror handy, explore yourself then experience the orgasm of a lifetime. Enjoy!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): NO!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): hi.. my name is mariah.
to answer your question, there really isnt a wrong way to masturbate, but maybe you are not doing it in a very pleasurable way. you said that when your boyfriend does it you feel something. maybe you should watch how he does it or have him show you. then you can explore better ways (ways that really feel good to you) from there. on your profile it says you are between the ages of 13 and 15. that may be another reason. everyone is different and reaches the point in their life when they really get pleasure from sex, or masturbation. it may just be that you havent reached that point yet. all i can do is encourage you to try different ways and you will eventually find the one that works for you!!!!! also... how old is your boyfriend?
best wishes
mariah
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reader, MissKin +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Masturbation is different for everyone. i know someone who just can't get into masturbating on their own.
It's all about getting to know you're own body. finding out what feels good to you - if what you're doing isn't working, try something else. You can't expect other people to know what you like if you don't even know it yourself.
Most women get joys out of playing with their clits, this tends to be the most sensitive spot for females but you have to learn for yourself how you like to be stimulated in that area and all areas.
Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you at all. Relax, try out different things - there is no one set way to masturbate at all, and if you get good feelings from what your boyfriend does then there definitely isn't anythin wrong with you in that area phsyically at least.
Just chill out, take the time to get to know your own body and what feels good to you. Stop worrying about doing something 'wrong' or 'right' and just enjoy it.
Goodluck, best wishes,
MK
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): if you enjoy it when your boyfriend does it, then their can't be anything wrong with you, only you're not doing it right. im sure over time you'll work it out. =D
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