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writes:Ok. We have all been there. So I would like to here from those how have made it through. A break-up with my partner for 2 years; there was hardly any good times. And if it was good it was just because if he amount of passion between us. Now we are talking again and this time he has said he's changed and he isn't even a person without me. He says that our break-up literally broke him. Now I talking to him again with slight flirting...but am I falling into his bull*hit again? Is it ok to give him a 3rd try? (his paced second chance I gave him a week to change/ not to mention the 2years during our relationship of me nagging at him to change) Should we stay together for the sake of our 1 1/2yr old?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. Honestly, I feel the pressure of many saying that "you have a child with him, try and work it out." But I have tried and tried and cried and cried. I am done with feeling the way I did when we were together. I wasn't myself. I do love him still but I think in this case...its just not enough or strong enough. I feel like I have given him chance after chance. But I wont this time. I dont belive that it could work with both of us happy. So thank you for the advise. :) It helps!
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 Honestly no. If it comes to the point where he shows that he hasnt changed your child is at an age now where it can understand things more around him/her. To see you maybe argueing etc wouldnt be right for the child.
Also you stated "should we get back together for the sake of our 1 1/2 yr old" this says it all, you would only be gettign together simply for the child and in a relationship people generally get together because they want to be together and not just for the sake of some thing.
Hope you make the right decision.
Peaches
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reader, ladycharm +, writes (11 March 2008):
 i grew up with my perents fighting all the time and they alway got back together and i always knew it was for us but i knew that they was not happy now i blame myself because i love them both but because of me they have not had the chance to be happy and to find love my point is if it hasent worked the first time it probley isent going to to stay together for the sake of your child is most likey going to do more harm than good its better to go through a little pain now than to suffer through more brake up and more fights if you decide to brake up make sure its final an if you give it anouther go make sure its for the right reasons and not for your child good luck
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